DOS_patos
Unverified Legion of Trill member
Dear ABW , y'all know how we do. give this man advice.
I married a woman 30 years ago. She was a divorcée with a 6-year-old child. She divorced me about 10 years ago, after 20 years of marriage. I raised her daughter by providing clothing, food, shelter, braces and college, because her biological dad was a deadbeat loser, and still is.
I had two more children with my wife. Currently, I give all three children equal gifts of $10,000 per year. (I’m in the 1%.) I never really cared for my stepdaughter and, to this day, I find her personality abrasive.
But I remember very well when my father died: His will heavily favored my oldest sister. I came from a family of eight children, and our father’s last will and testament caused havoc and distrust among us siblings and broke some of us apart. I don’t think my father had any idea of the destruction that he would leave behind. I don’t want my two children fighting with their half-sister.
But I really have to work up my inner strength to gift her equally. I want to distribute $100,000 each per child every year. I can easily afford it, but I just don’t care for my stepdaughter. Half the time, I feel like she befriends me just so she can get a payout. I want to do the right thing, but it’s hard.
So I’m reaching out to you for advice and ideas.
Mr. Not-So-Perfect Parent
I married a woman 30 years ago. She was a divorcée with a 6-year-old child. She divorced me about 10 years ago, after 20 years of marriage. I raised her daughter by providing clothing, food, shelter, braces and college, because her biological dad was a deadbeat loser, and still is.
I had two more children with my wife. Currently, I give all three children equal gifts of $10,000 per year. (I’m in the 1%.) I never really cared for my stepdaughter and, to this day, I find her personality abrasive.
But I remember very well when my father died: His will heavily favored my oldest sister. I came from a family of eight children, and our father’s last will and testament caused havoc and distrust among us siblings and broke some of us apart. I don’t think my father had any idea of the destruction that he would leave behind. I don’t want my two children fighting with their half-sister.
But I really have to work up my inner strength to gift her equally. I want to distribute $100,000 each per child every year. I can easily afford it, but I just don’t care for my stepdaughter. Half the time, I feel like she befriends me just so she can get a payout. I want to do the right thing, but it’s hard.
So I’m reaching out to you for advice and ideas.
Mr. Not-So-Perfect Parent
