The problem is that we’ve been conditioned to look at relationships like they are commodities, but everything else that is a commodity in life doesn’t have thoughts, feelings, emotions, and objectives.
Those things are more easier to predict, because there’s only a few things they can do in reaction to outside stimuli. When you stop looking at relationships as commodities and more as resources to experience different blessings of life.
You stop tying attributes to people on a scale level and see more that everyone has a resource that you can glean something from, some more refined than others, based on who they are.
But everyone has a usefulness and no one is your one, everyone that provides a resource to you will at some point stale as a resource to that, if not by your growth, their growth, or your apathy for having it beyond its current usefulness.
All that to say that everything he said is based on your seeing your life from the outside in, and not the inside out. Using his scale, and seeing your life for the inside out.
You could be happy with a three that has all the resources that mean something to you. But the world is going to try its best to convince you that what you truly want doesn’t matter and that what you should want is what someone else has.