OPINION Should a man expect his woman to love and take care of him like his mother did?
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Knock_Twice
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I stated love breh, the take care part is in the love.
give examples
i've already said my peace about it, but i think you should give examples so everyone can give an informed opinion
well since yall pump faking, imma make assumptions.....
the relationship between husband and wife should never mimic mother and son, they are two completely different dynamics.
Your mother raised you when you were a child, and my have presented the role as advisor or support system as an adult.
But your mother is never your partner. at least in the relationship sense.
Your wife is. and as a partner the dynamic of your relationship is based off of communication and supporting each other.
two totally different dynamics, and two different applications of love.
if i got health problems, my mother wants me to see a doctor because she's worried about me. she doesn't want to see me in pain. she wants me to be there for my wife and children not so as there for her.. her joy is seeing me do well with my family.
my wife wants me to go because she needs me. we walked into a partnership together, and i need to be as healthy as possible to hold up my end of our agreement. I am also her companion, she would miss me in an entirely different way, and fears my loss in an entirely different way. her joy is in raising a family and rowing with me.
the relationship between husband and wife should never mimic mother and son, they are two completely different dynamics.
Your mother raised you when you were a child, and my have presented the role as advisor or support system as an adult.
But your mother is never your partner. at least in the relationship sense.
Your wife is. and as a partner the dynamic of your relationship is based off of communication and supporting each other.
two totally different dynamics, and two different applications of love.
if i got health problems, my mother wants me to see a doctor because she's worried about me. she doesn't want to see me in pain. she wants me to be there for my wife and children not so as there for her.. her joy is seeing me do well with my family.
my wife wants me to go because she needs me. we walked into a partnership together, and i need to be as healthy as possible to hold up my end of our agreement. I am also her companion, she would miss me in an entirely different way, and fears my loss in an entirely different way. her joy is in raising a family and rowing with me.
I'm not pump faking but it is his question and I want him to explain it how he thinks the dynamic should work
I'm with you and @BDP™️
Knock_Twice
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My opinion on the matter on how I feel, that's the only love that a man will experience. It's no set condition with mama's love and I feel that should be the same energy that should be received from your s/o.
If I go to jail, mama putting up the house without a blink of a eye, I feel my s/o should empty out her accounts and put up her apartment/house to come get my black ass out.
The love shown from a mother should come from your woman or she should want to get to that point. Again, all this is an opinion and barbershop talk.
If I go to jail, mama putting up the house without a blink of a eye, I feel my s/o should empty out her accounts and put up her apartment/house to come get my black ass out.
The love shown from a mother should come from your woman or she should want to get to that point. Again, all this is an opinion and barbershop talk.
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Knock_Twice
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Knock_Twice
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I see it being that woman of yours should be willing to walk to hell and on back, in the snow bare-foot if need be to come and get you if she loves you, (some) A mama would do that without evening thinking about it.
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Dont drank out my drank, foo
assuming we mean the most literal sense of "take care of"......no
imo this is only an issue with men who got babied/spoiled
I never had all that waiting on and primping and checkin in with, so I've never expected it from a woman
I got friends and fam that got their clothes washed, folded, ironed, etc...got plates made and kept warm.....all thru high school and even further
some even had first cars/apartments/phone bills paid by mama....my little brother included
needless to say, most of them are still helpless with all that type of shit today
on any other note, yeah I expect her care for my better interest to match that of a mother's, and she's long since proven that
imo this is only an issue with men who got babied/spoiled
I never had all that waiting on and primping and checkin in with, so I've never expected it from a woman
I got friends and fam that got their clothes washed, folded, ironed, etc...got plates made and kept warm.....all thru high school and even further
some even had first cars/apartments/phone bills paid by mama....my little brother included
needless to say, most of them are still helpless with all that type of shit today
on any other note, yeah I expect her care for my better interest to match that of a mother's, and she's long since proven that
naw
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that ain't love......if i go to jail i don't want nobody putting up their house or emptying accounts, moma or wife..
if that's love, i don't want that.....
i don't agree with your perception of love
it's only a matter of time before this becomes another du roast,
so i'll get this out now....
i'm my mother's only child. and i guess from a sense you can call me a "momma's boy" but that's literally only because i'm her only child, and she's the only parent i could ever depend on , and we are crazy close..
however.. alotta the shit many people refer to when they think of "mothers" in this sense.. well at least from what haf and knock described.....that wasn't my mother....that wasn't her parenting style..
i was the only child, so i was pretty much all the chores in the house i cooked, i cleaned, did my own laundry...only thing she provided was shelter, and once i was 18 i started paying rent...
even when i moved back i originally started paying rent until i inherited more finances around the house....
my mother told me from a very young age that she would never put her house up for my bad decisions.. if i decided to run the streets and get locked up, i would either have to take care of my self, or sit... she did not raise me to break the law, so she refuses to bail me out, in every sense of the word...
and i 100% believed her then and now, and understand more now...
when you talk about someone who lays down rationale and reasoning to make an emotional decision based on unconditional love... i view that as foolish, and my mother never was on that tip....ever.....
everybody that had to put theirt house up for niggaz ended up losing that house and had nothing t pass down to the next generation.....my mother would never sacrifice that, and i don't expect my wife to either.....
she can't be so worried about me that she lose focus on taking care of the kids.....
that jail example ain't never it for me
so i'll get this out now....
i'm my mother's only child. and i guess from a sense you can call me a "momma's boy" but that's literally only because i'm her only child, and she's the only parent i could ever depend on , and we are crazy close..
however.. alotta the shit many people refer to when they think of "mothers" in this sense.. well at least from what haf and knock described.....that wasn't my mother....that wasn't her parenting style..
i was the only child, so i was pretty much all the chores in the house i cooked, i cleaned, did my own laundry...only thing she provided was shelter, and once i was 18 i started paying rent...
even when i moved back i originally started paying rent until i inherited more finances around the house....
my mother told me from a very young age that she would never put her house up for my bad decisions.. if i decided to run the streets and get locked up, i would either have to take care of my self, or sit... she did not raise me to break the law, so she refuses to bail me out, in every sense of the word...
and i 100% believed her then and now, and understand more now...
when you talk about someone who lays down rationale and reasoning to make an emotional decision based on unconditional love... i view that as foolish, and my mother never was on that tip....ever.....
everybody that had to put theirt house up for niggaz ended up losing that house and had nothing t pass down to the next generation.....my mother would never sacrifice that, and i don't expect my wife to either.....
she can't be so worried about me that she lose focus on taking care of the kids.....
that jail example ain't never it for me
Knock_Twice
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That's what I am speaking on. Match the love that your mother showed you.
Excluding that other stuff that you mentioned, that's not what is intended/expected from your woman, but that love that you got from your mama, with nothing/motive behind it, now if your s/o wants to do all that for you, then that's even better. That's what I'm speaking on and about.
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Knock_Twice
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That's fair, but in the same thought, if your daughter went to jail and prison, you wouldn't put up your house to bail her out of jail?
but there is something behind it.
and you have to identify what that is....and what it is is different from the nature of a relationship with a wife...
it's not the same....