Imo, yesMy wife knew my ex and how she played me. We were talking earlier this year and the subject of my ex came up. Wife was like "I wonder what she's doing nowadays" and I replied "Ionno... prolly dead by now." and the wife was like "You know... It's probably time to let that go, that was sooo long ago she's probably not even the same person she was."
Do you really need forgiveness to grow? I don't see that being a necessity like that.
It's not for the other person, it's for you
Just look at your last post. You've been married all this time and still thinking about how wrong she did you. Your wife brought up a great point. What if she isn't the same person today vs twenty years ago. Are you the same person?
Why can you progress and grow but she can't?