Good or Bad Parenting: "If Someone Hits You, Hit Them Back"

Duwop said:
Teaching your child conflict resolution is much more helpful for them than retaliation.

Retaliation can often do more to hurt them than the skill of assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome when possible. But complete refusal to acknowledge that it's even an option makes this a very difficult topic to get many people to even entertain.

So I'm done here. Teach your kids to always get their lick back. I'm sure it'll continue to work out for you.
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My parents told me (and I quote): “If somebody hits you… HIT ‘EM BACK!”

It ain’t about “getting your lick back”, it was about standing up for yourself and not letting these little motherfuckers push you around.

Sometimes as a kid, you might get targeted if they think you won’t fight back.

I’m not refusing to acknowledge “assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome as an option”.

I’m talking about kids defending themselves when necessary.
 
Allah_U_Akbar said:
My parents told me (and I quote): “If somebody hits you… HIT ‘EM BACK!”

It ain’t about “getting your lick back”, it was about standing up for yourself and not letting these little motherfuckers push you around.

Sometimes as a kid, you might get targeted if they think you won’t fight back.

I’m not refusing to acknowledge “assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome as an option”.

I’m talking about kids defending themselves when necessary.
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Yep...the bolded is the problem w/ not fighting back which is why I eluded to consequences regardless of the option. When I was growing up, not fighting back just meant you were going to get fucked w/ every day by them same people. Sometimes conflict is unavoidable and trying to avoid it can either make things better or worse. That's reality. Gotta assess the situation and be prepared for the repercussions of whatever choice you make.
 
Duwop said:
Teaching your child conflict resolution is much more helpful for them than retaliation.

Retaliation can often do more to hurt them than the skill of assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome when possible. But complete refusal to acknowledge that it's even an option makes this a very difficult topic to get many people to even entertain.

So I'm done here. Teach your kids to always get their lick back. I'm sure it'll continue to work out for you.
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Conflict resolution is before your kid get hit, after the hit it's go time.
 
I swear I should be done with this.

But yall acting like "hit em back!!" Is some kinda power up...

You can't "make" your kid tough. Either it's in them, or it's not. And as a parent you gotta recognize when it's not, and take the proper mature steps to protect your child's peace.

This shit ain't the movies, if they already picking on your kid, be the responsible adult, and at least attempt to handle it right... Don't send your child on a dummy mission where they might get packed up, add more additional trauma, and now you extra hot running into the situation with no information.

I guess I'm blessed,I got two stand up for themselves kids. But if I did have a timid child who told me they were getting bullied.... I'm getting involved... I'm going to the school, I'm talking to teachers, principals, I'll get the school board involved if needed. I'm reaching out to the kids parents, I'm doing everything possible to resolve the conflict peacefully without any bullshit.

But if all options are exhausted.... Then I'm bringing some wild kids who don't give AF to handle it accordingly.. But I'm not forcing my timid child to fight if that's not their personality. I'm not forcing them to be something they're not.

As a kid I looked out for kids like that. As an adult, I'm still protective of kids who just aren't naturally aggressive. Again, I was just blessed with two children who know how to defend themselves. I feel for y'all parents sending scared kids to war.
 
Duwop said:
Teaching your child conflict resolution is much more helpful for them than retaliation.

Retaliation can often do more to hurt them than the skill of assessing the situation and finding a peaceful outcome when possible. But complete refusal to acknowledge that it's even an option makes this a very difficult topic to get many people to even entertain.

So I'm done here. Teach your kids to always get their lick back. I'm sure it'll continue to work out for you.
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Thats a violent attitude to have O.G. Du.
 
Duwop said:
I swear I should be done with this.

But yall acting like "hit em back!!" Is some kinda power up...

You can't "make" your kid tough. Either it's in them, or it's not. And as a parent you gotta recognize when it's not, and take the proper mature steps to protect your child's peace.

This shit ain't the movies, if they already picking on your kid, be the responsible adult, and at least attempt to handle it right... Don't send your child on a dummy mission where they might get packed up, add more additional trauma, and now you extra hot running into the situation with no information.

I guess I'm blessed,I got two stand up for themselves kids. But if I did have a timid child who told me they were getting bullied.... I'm getting involved... I'm going to the school, I'm talking to teachers, principals, I'll get the school board involved if needed. I'm reaching out to the kids parents, I'm doing everything possible to resolve the conflict peacefully without any bullshit.

But if all options are exhausted.... Then I'm bringing some wild kids who don't give AF to handle it accordingly.. But I'm not forcing my timid child to fight if that's not their personality. I'm not forcing them to be something they're not.

As a kid I looked out for kids like that. As an adult, I'm still protective of kids who just aren't naturally aggressive. Again, I was just blessed with two children who know how to defend themselves. I feel for y'all parents sending scared kids to war.
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Correct me if im wrong but it Sounds like you are talking about before the moment of physical contact, while everyone is talking during the moment of physical contact.

You are talking about the stages before an actual fight. Joke calling, taking stuff, pranks, breaking their items, etc.
 
Everyone went through that growing pain of being picked on by someone. It's about how you handle it and how long you allow it. Me, personally, it's best to exchange punches back to your recipient. When I was growing up, that's how some became friends.
 
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