Unpopular Opinion: Bullies

Duwop

Duwop

Sometimes being the hero means saving the villain.
If your kid can't fight. Telling them to hit a bully back is dumb as fuck.

You better teach that kid to tell, or go to the school and get that kid in trouble yourself. But instructing your kid to go get their ass whooped is crazy work. One, they not gonna trust you no more.. Two, they may take an ass whooping that they really ain't ready for.

But a lotta people too angry and not mature enough to accept that that's not the lane for their kids. Best case scenario is for responsible adults to intervene.

And niggas know when their kid can't fight or not built like that. They just ignore it cuz of their own insecurities.
And that's fucked up.
 
Anyway idk if my boy can fight or not but I saw him step instinctively step to some bullies who tried to press him and his little homie

And the bullies backed down….i couldn’t have been prouder everyone learned a valuable lesson that day
 
Elzo69Renaissance said:
Anyway idk if my boy can fight or not but I saw him step instinctively step to some bullies who tried to press him and his little homie

And the bullies backed down….i couldn’t have been prouder everyone learned a valuable lesson that day
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You didn't have to tell him.

He had it in him.

I'm talking about the people who force timid kids to fight. That shit ain't right.
 
I never really had to deal with either of my kids being bullied. But they both stand up for themselves. And anytime they had an issue with a kid at school,I always reached out to the teacher myself vs telling my kids to handle it.

I feel like people just be way too angry and not teaching their kids good lessons.

My son is much more of a fighter than my daughter, and I was always up the school for some shit. And most of his alterations were resolved way better than if I told him some shit like

"If they get in your face, punch them" I would never tell my son some shit like that, cuz he's a child and is not thinking rational. He's operating off of emotions. And it's my job as a parent to teach him to navigate those emotions. He's going to be an adult one day, and just punching people cuz they press you will land you in prison. I'm not trying to be talking to my son from behind bars. So I teach him to handle conflicts without using your hands.

But every time I see this debate come up online, people are overwhelming trying to make their kids these tough ass fighters that they simply aren't by the examples and stories they tell. Like that shit is alarming to me. Figured I make a thread
 
My son last year had a bully. My son is a tad chubby. But he’s been slimming down as he goes through puberty. This kid just liked to fuck with him because my son is quiet and normally won’t say anything. But one day my son just snapped and beat the brakes off this kid. Then the school call me all upset because my kid got him on the ground and they said he was stomping him. My son said he just kicked him once. I believe my son. I say all that to say there’s only so much bullying a quiet kid can take till he goes off on someone. Also fuck that other kid.
 
Tessai said:
My son last year had a bully. My son is a tad chubby. But he’s been slimming down as he goes through puberty. This kid just liked to fuck with him because my son is quiet and normally won’t say anything. But one day my son just snapped and beat the brakes off this kid. Then the school call me all upset because my kid got him on the ground and they said he was stomping him. My son said he just kicked him once. I believe my son. I say all that to say there’s only so much bullying a quiet kid can take till he goes off on someone. Also fuck that other kid.
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The school situations are tough nowadays because they're going OD w/ punishing certain behavior/situations...even if your kid wasn't the one who started it. Trust, I have 2 young daughters that I've had to stop from putting hands on kids because of these zero tolerance rules the school has. That's when we have to politely coerce the teachers/principals into doing their damn job before we have to.
 
nex gin said:
The school situations are tough nowadays because they're going OD w/ punishing certain behavior/situations...even if your kid wasn't the one who started it. Trust, I have 2 young daughters that I've had to stop from putting hands on kids because of these zero tolerance rules the school has. That's when we have to politely coerce the teachers/principals into doing their damn job before we have to.
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They d tell me we saw the altercation and the other kid started it
But ur boy turned up a little too much so we had no choice but to write him up

I’m like wtf?
 
Tessai said:
My son last year had a bully. My son is a tad chubby. But he’s been slimming down as he goes through puberty. This kid just liked to fuck with him because my son is quiet and normally won’t say anything. But one day my son just snapped and beat the brakes off this kid. Then the school call me all upset because my kid got him on the ground and they said he was stomping him. My son said he just kicked him once. I believe my son. I say all that to say there’s only so much bullying a quiet kid can take till he goes off on someone. Also fuck that other kid.
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Did your son tell you about the kid before he went off??

Like no judgement, but normally quiet kid having a suddent violent outbreak, is not good. That shit should have been avoided at all costs. The school definitely dropped the ball, cuz it happened right under their noses, and I would be more pissed than anything. Because it's not as clean as "my kid stood up for himself"

Your kid had an emotional break down, that might have caused a significant impact on him.. It might be worth seeking therapy for real. Because if that's not in that kids nature.... Being forced to respond like that is concerning.

And again, my apologies if that came off wrong. But I've very protective of people's peace. Most of my fights were because I hated watching kids pick on quiet kids....I never wanted to see a quiet kid lose their shit.
 
BlackRain said:
I think I get what Du is getting at. That old adage of "go fight the bully or you gotta fight me" type of shit. Basically forcing a kid into a physical confrontation they aren't ready for.
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Bruh, I saw a video of an adult climbing on the bus to fight a kid themselves. Elementary age.

Like that's not how we should be responding to shit. My extreme would be pulling my kid out of the school because there are no responsible adults working in the building. As I've did before.

Not getting into a fight myself. As the principal wanted. Like...These schools really be fucked up sometimes.
 
Elzo69Renaissance said:
They d tell me we saw the altercation and the other kid started it
But ur boy turned up a little too much so we had no choice but to write him up

I’m like wtf?
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We had that exact situation happen w/ their older sister (highschool) last year. She kept having an issue w/ this girl who literally lived a block over from us. They rode the same bus and everything, but only wanted to pop off at our daughter when she was at school in front of a crowd. The school officials were aware of the situation for weeks and did nothing about it. One day she finally started a fight w/ ours....ours defended herself and still got suspended FOR DEFENDING HERSELF...smh. Like...wtf do they expect somebody to do...ball up in a fetal position and get pummeled so not to get suspended/expelled?
 
See the goofy shit I gotta deal with ..

So my son enters 6th grade .. Him and his friends are throwing the football around on the hill, first week of school every day ..... They just chilling... Having fun

The 8th graders... They don't like that.... They essentially the "seniors" of middle school...so watching the 6th graders be the cool kids playing football and catch was a issue to them... So, as the bigger kids... They start fucking with them.

Well my son and this 8th grader are about to get into it. And my son.... Trying to do better. Decided to turn his back, and walk away.

The 8th grader hit him in the back of the head.


Shit.
Went.
Down.

The only reason my son wasn't expelled and arrested was because I was up there after the first call, and strongly advocated for my kid. I tell him to walk away. I tell him to find a responsible adult. I am overly hard on my son and this shit, cuz I know how my son is.

But yeah, they gave him in school suspension. The other parents were being ridiculous. But your kid hit a kid in the back of the head, as he was walking away. I mean, I'm trying my best to parent my kid. Take some responsibility.


That kid did get fucked up that day.
 
The question said:
I was always told, it ain’t if you can fight, it’s if niggaz think there won’t be one fucking with you. I tell mines the same thing. Even Tyson lost a fight, so a lost ain’t the worst thing in the world. But them thinking you an automatic win, only makes you food.
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I tell my kids, the world doesn't reward fighters.. Find a responsible adult, and if there is no one, bring it to me.

Only defend yourself if you feel you are in danger. If you know you can walk away.... Walk away
 
My oldest son ain’t the biggest kid but he ain’t a bitch.

My daughter ain’t bully but she has “mean girl” traits and I don’t like that.

She choked a little boy out (literally) two weeks ago and they call us asking where did she learn that behavior. They had me mad as fuck asking that. But she has two brothers that’s all I can say.

My middle child is the smart guy of his class but also the strongest. Everybody love him from the kids in his class to the older kids. Every time I pick him all th teachers and students walk up to him to tell him bye.
 
But again, my kid's are fighters. I try to get them to chill. But that's them.

My daughter grabbed this boy by his ears and screamed in his face for 10 seconds cuz he kept fucking with her. I was pissed, cuz how long was this kid fucking with her?

I kept her out of school the next day. Cuz she was shaken up over the whole ordeal. The kid left her alone afterwards. But shit.
 
Duwop said:
Did your son tell you about the kid before he went off??

Like no judgement, but normally quiet kid having a suddent violent outbreak, is not good. That shit should have been avoided at all costs. The school definitely dropped the ball, cuz it happened right under their noses, and I would be more pissed than anything. Because it's not as clean as "my kid stood up for himself"

Your kid had an emotional break down, that might have caused a significant impact on him.. It might be worth seeking therapy for real. Because if that's not in that kids nature.... Being forced to respond like that is concerning.

And again, my apologies if that came off wrong. But I've very protective of people's peace. Most of my fights were because I hated watching kids pick on quiet kids....I never wanted to see a quiet kid lose their shit.
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Oh the school definitely dropped the ball. He’s is in therapy and doing better now. I was definitely pissed the fuck off that the school let it go on as long as they did. When this other kid was teasing him before and I called up to the school about it, his counselor told me everything he thought I wanted to hear. That they would call the other kids parents and he would be admonished for his behavior but nothing really happened, until my kid just couldn’t take it anymore. And also now that he’s in football he has a channel to release some aggression, but doing it positively.
 
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