The Queen of Accountability is running wild out here....

Duwop said:
😭 my step daughter didn't want me to walk her down the isle at her wedding 😭😭😭😭

Ass niggas
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"Damn...if only I would've listened to the queen of accountability
 
So the fuck what??

Like, for the life of me I don't understand the entitlement there. Ok, your feelings hurt.... Get the fuck over it.

Niggas need to be celebrated is ridiculous.

If I know I'm not the natural father if a little girl I helped raise and she wants her natural father at a graduation, wedding, what the fuck ever .....I honestly am would just fall back and let them celebrate the way they wanna celebrate. It's not my day, it's her day. Let her have the day she wants.

I'm not gonna be vindictive, heart broken, feel betrayed, none of that shit. If the nigga alive and can participate... I'm happy for both of them.

Mainly because she even wants him there, and he's able to get his shit enough together to show up. If it was really as bad as bro NEVER being there.... That's a huge gesture on her, and a huge win for him. I'm happy for both of them to be honest. I actually wanna see that little girl have a relationship with her biological dad, I understand that I'm just a fatherly figure... But that's not my child, and I'm cool with that.

If anything I would feel awkward standing in for a nigga that's alive and healthy enough to show up...I would be relieved that she was able to patch things up, or come to whatever understanding was necessary for this to happen.

I see this as a good thing for them. Not a slight to me.

Niggas be selfish as fuck and in their feelings about goofy shit.
 
Like,
Here's my take.

You been there. You the step dad. You been taking care of this child, watching her grow, doing all the things, being there for all the moments... But unless you are completely checked out onto her.... You have to see she genuinely wants that connection with her bio-dad. Like she's clearly been craving that connection and that attention from him throughout her life.. Yeah you were there, but you gotta see she really wanted her Dad to be the one to step up. And now on her big day, he finally steps up.

Me, personally, I'm happy for them both. I would be more irritated if she's upset than even on her big day, he fucking up. Unless the nigga dead or in jail, Imma have an issue that even on this day... He still can't get it together. This not my day. This her day. And I want her to have everything she wants. I want her to be happy.... So I'm very very in support of dude walking her down. At no point will I make it about me.

I saw one take on this where the dude threw a whole temper tantrum and took back everything he ever did for the child.... And I'm like .... Nigga....

You ain't getting married. Wtf
 
Duwop said:
Like,
Here's my take.

You been there. You the step dad. You been taking care of this child, watching her grow, doing all the things, being there for all the moments... But unless you are completely checked out onto her.... You have to see she genuinely wants that connection with her bio-dad. Like she's clearly been craving that connection and that attention from him throughout her life.. Yeah you were there, but you gotta see she really wanted her Dad to be the one to step up. And now on her big day, he finally steps up.

Me, personally, I'm happy for them both. I would be more irritated if she's upset than even on her big day, he fucking up. Unless the nigga dead or in jail, Imma have an issue that even on this day... He still can't get it together. This not my day. This her day. And I want her to have everything she wants. I want her to be happy.... So I'm very very in support of dude walking her down. At no point will I make it about me.

I saw one take on this where the dude threw a whole temper tantrum and took back everything he ever did for the child.... And I'm like .... Nigga....

You ain't getting married. Wtf
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I hate this conversation lol

But you are being very dismissive of the step father's feelings. I don't agree with the actions in either of those scenarios you've presented but I definitely can understand why his feelings would be hurt.

I also hate weddings and think the bill of the wedding shouldn't fall on the parents to foot, but that's for another thread

I do realize there are a lot of men who just aren't equipped to work through their hurt feelings. So I'ma give SOME grace in a situation like that. I want it to be said that if I had a step daughter,I would have no issue with her biological dad being part of the celebration (unless it feel under the conditions you described), but yes, I would feel some type of way (initially) that you wanna parade him around the room just cause he's your biological dad.

Imagine being husband number 2 to a woman and all she does is compare you to husband number 1. Or hell, just dating a chick and everything you do or rather fall short in is compared to the ex. That has to be a pretty awful feeling
 
Duwop said:
So the fuck what??

Like, for the life of me I don't understand the entitlement there. Ok, your feelings hurt.... Get the fuck over it.

Niggas need to be celebrated is ridiculous.

If I know I'm not the natural father if a little girl I helped raise and she wants her natural father at a graduation, wedding, what the fuck ever .....I honestly am would just fall back and let them celebrate the way they wanna celebrate. It's not my day, it's her day. Let her have the day she wants.

I'm not gonna be vindictive, heart broken, feel betrayed, none of that shit. If the nigga alive and can participate... I'm happy for both of them.

Mainly because she even wants him there, and he's able to get his shit enough together to show up. If it was really as bad as bro NEVER being there.... That's a huge gesture on her, and a huge win for him. I'm happy for both of them to be honest. I actually wanna see that little girl have a relationship with her biological dad, I understand that I'm just a fatherly figure... But that's not my child, and I'm cool with that.

If anything I would feel awkward standing in for a nigga that's alive and healthy enough to show up...I would be relieved that she was able to patch things up, or come to whatever understanding was necessary for this to happen.

I see this as a good thing for them. Not a slight to me.

Niggas be selfish as fuck and in their feelings about goofy shit.
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Me personally I wouldn’t have any issue with the dad being there I can understand being salty about the aisle thing but that seems more like terrible communication. Because wouldn’t this all be things discussed before.
 
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