Do you judge EVERYONE by the company they keep? 🤔

[illed_Out]

I don’t judge, I take notes just in case..

I mind my business and stay in my lane, and anybody that knows me know that if I do something to you then you must’ve had it coming because I don’t bother nobody…

 

[Mr BFK]

maybe I'm bugging out but it seem like @Duwop is changing his stance in here

does the same logic apply to mofos who cheat on their gf/wife?


seems like u previously had plenty of entrenched opinions on not finding certain people trustworthy of ur friendship

 

[Duwop]

maybe I'm bugging out but it seem like @Duwop is changing his stance in here

does the same logic apply to mofos who cheat on their gf/wife?


seems like u previously had plenty of entrenched opinions on not finding certain people trustworthy of ur friendship

My stance on that was if your will lie to your wife, you'd definitely lie to me. So it was a matter of trusting said friends. A lotta my friends have cheated on and even had side kids on their wives... With that said I can't say I fully trust them

 

[Mr BFK]

My stance on that was if your will lie to your wife, you'd definitely lie to me. So it was a matter of trusting said friends. A lotta my friends have cheated on and even had side kids on their wives... With that said I can't say I fully trust them

I hear u but make it make sense


in ur mind it's ok to be friends with felons/criminals and folks shouldn't judge

but u give ur homebody a side-eye for getting pussy on the side when u really don't know his relationship with his S/O


are u saying cheating is worse than actually committing a crime when it comes to evaluating someone's trustworthiness?

 

[Duwop]

I hear u but make it make sense


in ur mind it's ok to be friends with felons/criminals and folks shouldn't judge

but u give ur homebody a side-eye for getting pussy on the side when u really don't know his relationship with his S/O


are u saying cheating is worse than actually committing a crime when it comes to evaluating someone's trustworthiness?

The two things aren't the same at all

Me judging my friend's on their behavior is different than someone judging me for hanging around them.

 

[loud-ninja]

Your experience does not equal the majority

bad folks hang around bad folks
Smart people hang around smart people
Rich people hang around rich people
Gamers are friends with gamers
Gang members hang around gang members
Hustlers hang around hustlers


It’s really that simple

Bad folks hang around good folks as well. "Wolves in sheep clothing".

Happens a lot in business.

Get with reputable people to attract investors and customers. Then start stealing from the company.

Fraud pastors are the perfect example.

 

[Mr BFK]

The two things aren't the same at all

Me judging my friend's on their behavior is different than someone judging me for hanging around them.

???? try restating more clearly bruh

the premise of this thread is whether u judge people by the company they keep

u implied that u don't judge friends for having criminals as associates/company they keep



but u also imply u judge another man for what he does in his relationship that u are not a part of

unless u saying cheating is worse than committing actual crime

then ur willingness to judge in one situation but not in another isn't really consistent

trustworthiness should be just as questionable in both situations IMO

 

[Mr BFK]

@Duwop :

"don't judge me for being associated with felons/criminals"


"but it's ok to judge a nigga for stepping out on his ol lady"



that doesn't compute bruh

I also hang with a bunch of mofos who cheated on their wives

should people pre-judge me as well

 

[Duwop]

???? try restating more clearly bruh

the premise of this thread is whether u judge people by the company they keep

u implied that u don't judge friends for having criminals as associates/company they keep



but u also imply u judge another man for what he does in his relationship that u are not a part of

unless u saying cheating is worse than committing actual crime

then ur willingness to judge in one situation but not in another isn't really consistent

trustworthiness should be just as questionable in both situations IMO

I still think they are way too different of examples.

Your friends can still keep you honest by telling you about yourself.

Like for example, if you gotta friend that doesn't really make efforts to see their kids cuz if the relationship with their baby moms. And you as a friend can be like bruh, the kid didn't do anything. Yeah can go back n forth over that.... But you might not end the friendship, you just feel a certain way about the way that friend moving.

Now his baby mom saying you're prolly a bad father as well, bcuz your boy tripping is a reach.

I had a homeboy who was HORRIBLE to his wife. Had multiple kids on her, they got into fights. Nigga stayed cheating on her. And I routinely told him about himself. Told him multiple times that it's tough to take him at his word sometimes cuz I see how he moves with his wife. We still cool, but we often have conversations about accountability and how to be better men. But for me to be judged for being cool with him at all..... We're two different people.. Just bcuz we're cool doesn't mean we treat our relationships the same

 

[mryounggun]

I wouldn't say 'judge'. But I definitely add it to your profile in my head.

 

[Natural Born Sinners]

Someone told me, show me your friends and I’ll show you who you will become. Simple statement, but life is not that simple. At one point in my life, I actually had friends that smoked crack. Some people thought I was smoking crack w them, but I wasn’t. Eventually I had to stop hanging out w them, cause they started boosting shit and asking me for rides. I also had drug dealing friends. that wasn’t my thing. I dabbled, but realized it wasn’t for me. People definitely judged me off my friend group and to an extent I judge people by who they hang around a bit too.

 

[mryounggun]

Some people thought I was smoking crack w them,

 

[AP4.0]

 

[Duwop]

I never popped an E pill, but all them Niggaz was definitely popping them shits

 

[illed_Out]

Yea I’m out!
Niggas out here hanging with crackheads…

On purpose…

 

[BlackRain]

I see what you're saying @Duwop but I think you're doing alot of reaching to try and avoid being judged by the company you keep instead of just keeping better company. If you hanging tough with somebody or folks known to be into certain shit then it's natural that folks assume people who are friends have shared interests, whatever those may be, and that you are the very least ok with how they move even if you don't partake. Because who willingly keeps someone around them that they fundamentally disagree with how they move?

 

[Duwop]

I see what you're saying @Duwop but I think you're doing alot of reaching to try and avoid being judged by the company you keep instead of just keeping better company. If you hanging tough with somebody or folks known to be into certain shit then it's natural that folks assume people who are friends have shared interests, whatever those may be, and that you are the very least ok with how they move even if you don't partake. Because who willingly keeps someone around them that they fundamentally disagree with how they move?

I don't hang with nobody but my family these days.

I was just referring to my younger days when most my friends were up to no good. There's always someone in the group who's not on the same thing everybody else on.

 

[BlackRain]

I don't hang with nobody but my family these days.

I was just referring to my younger days when most my friends were up to no good. There's always someone in the group who's not on the same thing everybody else on.

In those younger years if somebody assumed you were on the same type of time as your friends though it may have been a wrong assumption it would be an understandable one.

 

[Duwop]

In those younger years if somebody assumed you were on the same type of time as your friends though it may have been a wrong assumption it would be an understandable one.

I get that, I'm just saying it doesn't always apply.
The thread capitalized "EVERYONE" and the premise is pushing towards no exceptions.

That's my only point. I'm fortunate enough to where people didn't judge me solely on who I hung around. 4 of my groomsmen did over 5 years in prison. All of them sold drugs, committed robberies, weapons charges...
All those dudes had multiple baby mom's. And a whole lotta other shit I never got into. Very adjacent, but not directly.

I get understandable, but I'm saying it's never definite. I used to always tell people I'm more of a good influence on them, than them being a bad influence on me. Cuz more time than not I'd offer a voice of reason when shit almost hit the fan

 

[Freeman]

Someone told me, show me your friends and I’ll show you who you will become. Simple statement, but life is not that simple. At one point in my life, I actually had friends that smoked crack. Some people thought I was smoking crack w them, but I wasn’t. Eventually I had to stop hanging out w them, cause they started boosting shit and asking me for rides. I also had drug dealing friends. that wasn’t my thing. I dabbled, but realized it wasn’t for me. People definitely judged me off my friend group and to an extent I judge people by who they hang around a bit too.

Soon as we realized our one homie started selling crack we stopped calling him when we were posting up on the block. Lol. He was making shit too hot.