FEATURED Advice/Nuances When First Moving in With Bae?

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shutupGabi said:
I have she hasn't.
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Ok

This could be very uncomfortable initially because there's always that feeling each other out phase

Like screw said, communication is key but communication also can be a challenge because a lot of us don't acknowledge our little quirks we've developed from living by ourselves or like say you're a neat freak and while they might not be a slob, they end up just letting you do everything because you have a certain way of doing things. Meanwhile, they really haven't done shit to help maintain the space.

I highly recommend getting on a set schedule for chores so that the weight of them doesn't fall on one person and it allows both to have some ownership of the shared spaces
 
What size bed should we get

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shutupGabi said:
What size bed should we get

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Depends on the space lol

Also what kinda sleepers are y'all?

Do both of y'all toss and turn? Do either of y'all end up sleeping across the bed?

Y'all like to cuddle after sex?

Who needs the air on vs who gets really cold and has to sleep with 4 blankets?
 
Also Gabi there’s going to be an adjustment period of like hmmmm…3 months that might lead to some arguing and shit

Just don’t look at it as “did we make a mistake?”

It’s just living with someone sharing space and having them affect you 24/7 and vice versa takes getting used to

It has no bearing on the relationship
 
shutupGabi said:
A playa got taken out the streets, what do I need to know about living with my s/o 😬
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As long as both parties are willing to listen where the other one is coming from, then y'all can make it work.

You don't have to agree to why someone feels how they do as long as you listen enough to understand where they are coming from and their trigger.

Then it's up to you decide to if the relationship is worth you making an adjustment.

I said you but this goes both ways.

Communicate early and often. The first steps are actually learning how to communicate more than what y'all communicating for.

Congrats though. Happy for you
 
Split the energy in the house, what I mean, if you see her cooking, has cleaned, worked, at least try and put up the dishes and start the dishwasher. Vice Versa.

Make the Bed up every morning, no grown body should be coming home to a messy bed.

Wash Day, If you wash clothes or she wash the clothes, help her fold them, or if you hear that the clothes are finished being washed, just don't walk by the washer pantry and go on by your day, put the motherfuckers in the dryer so they can be dried.

Take care of the little shit, you see the trash full or she see the shit full, take the trash outta of the trash can, don't continue to stuff the shit...being lazy. Take the trash out, the shit is overflowing dayum near.

Clean up behind yourself, both of yall.

Agree on what the A/C will be set to when it's time to go to sleep, one may want that hoe at 67 degrees (me), another may want the shit at 75 or some shit, gotta come to an agreement. I can't sleep all stuffy and shit...I don't know how motherfuckers sleep in heat.

Keep the bathroom sink area clean, keep your hair products stored away, vice versa, clunkiness is not a good look. Messiness just screams fussing and fighting.

I find that living in a clean space, it cuts down on the fussing and arguing, shit being messy is an invite to fussing and a lot of pint up anger
 
With 2 women, sort out days when you all will cook. Who's doing the cooking, designate days for eating out, weekends etc. Keep the home with fresh flowers, flowers aint nothing but 12 dollars at WalMart or Albertson or some shit, keep them shits in the home.

If you all leave at different times in the mornings to go to work or the gym etc, make sure one respects the other's time to lay in bed, don't be all loud getting ready, trying to talk and shit...

I had a rule, I don't talk until after 9:00 a.m. (I nod) No grown folks need to be having deep convos at 7:33 a.m. in the morning, let your vocals get warmed up 1st dayum lol

If you don't like something, address the shit... If neither one of you all like bugs, roaches, pay for an exterminator. I'm sure you don't wanna always be the one killing the bugs and shit, gone pay the monthly fee.

Come up with 3 or 4 TV shows that you all can watch together, use them shits as "spending time or quality time" whatever the fuck....gotta spend some time while you all are sharing space outside of the bedroom.

Just enjoy each other and respect each other. Not sure how you all deal with phone convos, don't be all in her mouth watching her while she's on the phone lol, and vice versa, she shouldn't be all in your mouth watching you while you're on your phone. Shit can be annoying as fuck

Do all that other corny shit too, buy matching pajamas, that pussy shit, do that shit...keep it fun


You never wanna be that person that takes the long way home or just sit at the end of the block, or store dreading to go home lol. Them niggas are the worse, smh
 
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