This Ain’t Random Enough

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Elzo69Renaissance said:
Yea fam I only use IG sometimes and ABW and some of the happiest couples on IG that I know are now divorced

I just sit back and smh
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Niggas rather air their dirty laundry out on social media over going to therapy then have the nerve to say " therapy don't work for me, I don't believe in it"

FOH
 
AP3.0 said:
Niggas rather air their dirty laundry out on social media over going to therapy then have the nerve to say " therapy don't work for me, I don't believe in it"

FOH
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Just seen a meme from a man saying Drakes makes music for men who refuse to go to therapy lol

But naw the only couple ms I seen crash out on social media are like my YNs nieces and nephews and their s/o

The older ppl I know be posting all lovey Dovey and positive then u find out they going through hell

But yea professional help is a must
 
Elzo69Renaissance said:
Watching this Netflix doc this chick said “ the ppl who seem the happiest on social media are usually hiding some very dark things”

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This couple from Corona my wife and I befriended while in Cancun some years ago would always post these amazing pics on FB all the time from vacations, weekend outings, trips to the beach, date nights, etc. Wife was always jealous of their life, believing that they had this perfect marriage and everything. I kept telling her the people that looke like they have the greatest lives online usually don't.

My wife passes, I sign up for FB and connect with family and friends, including the wife in that couple. She reaches out a few times to check on me and we have convos on Messenger, no big deal. Then one day during our conversations she opens up and asks me some things, then confides in me that their marriage has been crumbling for years. The husband has been royally beating her ass for the 30 years they've been married, their oldest son is acting just like him in his marriage and lashing out at her husband. The two younger boys have been taking martial arts lessons and both had recently threatened their father that if he touches their mother again they both gonna beat his ass. Shit is all fucked up but she continues to post all these great looking, happy ass pics, including pics of the whole family cheese grinning like everything is cool.
 
konceptjones said:
This couple from Corona my wife and I befriended while in Cancun some years ago would always post these amazing pics on FB all the time from vacations, weekend outings, trips to the beach, date nights, etc. Wife was always jealous of their life, believing that they had this perfect marriage and everything. I kept telling her the people that looke like they have the greatest lives online usually don't.

My wife passes, I sign up for FB and connect with family and friends, including the wife in that couple. She reaches out a few times to check on me and we have convos on Messenger, no big deal. Then one day during our conversations she opens up and asks me some things, then confides in me that their marriage has been crumbling for years. The husband has been royally beating her ass for the 30 years they've been married, their oldest son is acting just like him in his marriage and lashing out at her husband. The two younger boys have been taking martial arts lessons and both had recently threatened their father that if he touches their mother again they both gonna beat his ass. Shit is all fucked up but she continues to post all these great looking, happy ass pics, including pics of the whole family cheese grinning like everything is cool.
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Sheesh that’s messed up
 
Elzo69Renaissance said:
Sheesh that’s messed up
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I was just going back through the messages... There's a LOT more to it all. Worst part is that while all of this shit was going on her mother was in her last days and was in hospice care so she's trying to attend to her moms while at the same time trying to mediate between her oldest son and her husband and the abusiveness her son is displaying towards his wife and kids. Cops been called, threats of getting CPS involved, and other fuckery.


But then in the midst of that, happy time pics at the beach or at her favorite restaurant.
 
konceptjones said:
I was just going back through the messages... There's a LOT more to it all. Worst part is that while all of this shit was going on her mother was in her last days and was in hospice care so she's trying to attend to her moms while at the same time trying to mediate between her oldest son and her husband and the abusiveness her son is displaying towards his wife and kids. Cops been called, threats of getting CPS involved, and other fuckery.


But then in the midst of that, happy time pics at the beach or at her favorite restaurant.
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Family therapy d be a good start
 
Elzo69Renaissance said:
Family therapy d be a good start
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They would have to get 3 generations together for that to be effective. His mother 'cause she was abusive towards him and his brothers growing up, the two of them, and their 4 kids. His moms is still alive but her health is declining so getting her there might be a challenge. I had suggested couples therapy for the two of them, but he seems to be unwilling to go with her, so he supposedly going to a men's support group in the church. She's gone through therapy a time or two. I don't know if there's a cultural stigma with therapy in the Filipino community like there is in the Black community but that could be part of his resistance to it.
 
SneakDZA said:
You gotta filter those ones out and keep it moving.
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It’s all of em fam. If it ain’t immediately, it comes in time. Their entire lives are a fantasy they want you to partake in. None of em live in reality, and the ones that do. When you get with them, they decide there’s no better time than now to try to live in a fantasy.
 
RusselWilsonJr said:
It’s all of em fam. If it ain’t immediately, it comes in time. Their entire lives are a fantasy they want you to partake in. None of em live in reality, and the ones that do. When you get with them, they decide there’s no better time than now to try to live in a fantasy.
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Damn, man. That sounds bleak and also either misanthropic or misogynistic.

If it's any consolation... it's not true. You might just need to cast a wider net. Or a smaller one.
 
SneakDZA said:
Damn, man. That sounds bleak and also either misanthropic or misogynistic.

If it's any consolation... it's not true. You might just need to cast a wider net. Or a smaller one.
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misanthropic-with reason and evidence

misogynistic- if I am, only in oblivious ways, because we do live a patriarchal society. I love and respect women that I don’t have intimate relationships with. When it becomes personal, I just have high standards for behavior.

I’m not above being wrong, I could be absolutely wrong and god has constantly allowed situations to undersell me, just so he can knock my shoes off in a way that would lead me to say who else but god, ya know.
 
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