mike030270
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My dad worked a lot when I was a kid. He made time for us when he could. But I wasn't trippin off it. B/c I knew he had a job to go to. My mama held it down until she passed.
But by that time I was a teenager. So my understanding of him having to work to provide as a widower grew even more. I understood how hard he had it, and never became a burden to him (ie. out in the streets or in school doing dumb shyt).
Did I wish he and other members of my family was there for me dealing wit the loss of my mama all these years? Yes. It is what it is. But I would NEVER shun him. He did what he could to make sure we was straight. Did a helluva job at that.
Besides...I'm too old to be carrying that kinda emotional baggage.
You intentionally ignored the word "neglectful" as well in my post. You can be a neglectful parent and still provide financially for your kids...and simply providing for your kids doesn't negate being a neglectful or shitty parent. And the bare minimum is providing financially for your kids so if that's the bar for parenting then that's a low ass bar to set when we all know it takes more to raise a child than feeding and clothing them.
And this is the very thing a lot of mother do and still not treated like this.You intentionally ignored the word "neglectful" as well in my post. You can be a neglectful parent and still provide financially for your kids...and simply providing for your kids doesn't negate being a neglectful or shitty parent. And the bare minimum is providing financially for your kids so if that's the bar for parenting then that's a low ass bar to set when we all know it takes more to raise a child than feeding and clothing them.
Ding ding ding dingMy dad worked a lot when I was a kid. He made time for us when he could. But I wasn't trippin off it. B/c I knew he had a job to go to. My mama held it down until she passed.
Yes, I did because I find it hard to say a parent neglected their child when they had a full stomach, clothes, shoes, a warm home to live in, presents for birthdays and xmas, and all that shit growing up. So he didn't teach you chess or played baseball with you, and maybe he didn't come to all your school events, but that man did what he had to to make sure his child never went without.
I know you're finna get into "emotional neglect", blah, blah, blah but you know what? It seems to me like no matter what that man does it ain't gonna be enough in y'alls eyes like if he was there as much as he could be, y'all would say it still wasn't enough.
Daddy gotta be superman outchea, otherwise he ain't shit.
Shit surprised me lol8 pages in 1 day? Damn
And can we not put rich vs poor in this.
It’s obvious the man wasn’t rich.
this is about providing
And this is the very thing a lot of mother do and still not treated like this.
Look I understand where you coming from.
I often speak from the parent side and I respect your position coming from the child’s side. But we can’t pretend some kids want their parent to act like some shit they seen or dreamt of.
without all the details we can just say dude ain’t shit but a provider.
for all we know he could have a 12 hr shift and by the time he gets home they off to school or when they get home he’s off to work. It could be that simple.
You're doing alot of assuming based on your own personal pov and not the information actually provided. You don't know if they did get all of that as kids growing up. And if you truly feel that simply providing financially for your kids is all that matters then your other rants about morality and what kids should and shouldn't be taught are null and void because as you're saying here none of that matters as long as the parents are keeping a roof over their head. Your breakdown of a shitty parent doesn't matter because according to the standard you just set you can treat your kid any way you want so long as they're fed clothed and housed.
Not 1 person has said a parent needs to be perfect or a superhero so to keep trying to pin your pov on that foundation is dumb because nobody has said that. But to say it's ungrateful to expect your parent to do more than pay bills is a low ass bar for parenting when part of raising a child is imparting things on them they carry into adulthood. Like I said earlier in this thread having had an abusive and neglectful parent even though I personally chose to forgive I wouldn't fault someone else for choosing not to do so. And it doesn't make someone a bad person for expecting their parent to actually be a parent and not just a wallet or ATM machine
My dad worked a lot when I was a kid. He made time for us when he could. But I wasn't trippin off it. B/c I knew he had a job to go to. My mama held it down until she passed.
But by that time I was a teenager. So my understanding of him having to work to provide as a widower grew even more. I understood how hard he had it, and never became a burden to him (ie. out in the streets or in school doing dumb shyt).
Did I wish he and other members of my family was there for me dealing wit the loss of my mama all these years? Yes. It is what it is. But I would NEVER shun him. He did what he could to make sure we was straight. Did a helluva job at that.
Besides...I'm too old to be carrying that kinda emotional baggage.
Never said I "truly feel that simply providing financially for your kids is all that matters", now did I??? I understand it because of what I've seen in my lifetime, as have others who are in my generation and older. Am I that father? Nope: I busted my ass to be in a position where mine was the sole income necessary for us to live for the better part of the last 22 years and in doing so, I was also able to spend a fuckton of time with my kids on a daily basis. I made moves so I could be there but I know I'm kind of an anomaly in that regard: How many men do you really know nowadays that makes enough that his wife doesn't have to work? So I'm not even looking at this from my personal position 'cause I ain't that dude working two shifts at the plant coming home to sleep, eat, shower, and head back out so his kids can have something.
The way you and others have framed it, a father needs to be a superhero 'cause if he's lacking anywhere, then he ain't shit and the kids deserve to shit on him. Can't have any failings or shortcomings 'cause if he does he's unworthy of grace or compassion in his later years.
8 pages in 1 day? Damn
Shit surprised me lol
All cool and you right, so can they not like their dad but support him in his older age? Can he live in the after life with dignity and respect.Talking about how shitty mothers get a pass is a whole nother subject that alot of people, mainly the sons of single mothers, don't like having about their own moms but love having about everyone else mom. And yeah some kids are assholes in how they perceive their parents efforts. These kids were being cold towards their father which on the one end isn't right...but on the other hand if he hadn't been there in that way their entire lives beforehand to just expect someone to embrace an attempt with open arms as if there isn't years of baggage is unrealistic. People keep talking about keep the same energy he gave them and they literally did just that...and now it's a problem? You get what you give right?
This is the most successful thread I’ve had on here so I’ll take it llsDiscussions about fathers is a hot topic b.