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loud-ninja said:
You couldnt just say you not interested? You block her probably make her feel worst. The truth will hurt less. Or you could have just said you are seeing someone
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U right, I’ll unblock her and let her know what’s up if she contact me again. The convo happened today so as far as I know she didn’t hit me back. But thanks for checking me, it would hurt her even more
 
Alle'Oop said:
So yo…I work wit a older dude that knows a lot of history when it comes to black people in CharlestonSC. Shit that I didn’t even know was shit that happened. So he so in depth wit the knowledge that it got me thinking to do one of those city tours on a tour bus. He suggested this tour bus company that is ran by a black dude that really goes into detail about black peoples impact in the city. Said dude spared no details even though white people are the majority of their clientele.

So after that, I happen to randomly be on Linkden for what ever reason, just bored. I see this older woman that’s in my connections that I don’t even remember connecting with but for some reason the alerts told me of shit she had done that day. So I click her profile and she deadass looks like Felicia Rashard. But I also see that she works for the tour bus company that my co worker suggested.

Now I never talk to people on Linkden but I send her a DM asking her. Hey, I see that you worked there, I wanted to try a tour, what should I expect. She hits me back with..here’s my number call me. So I’m like, bet, I’ll call you tomorrow. Ion really wanna talk on the phone, I expected a message back but whatever, I’ll call her.

So the next day I call her and she starts off the convo by saying the reason she wanted me to call her was because she recently worked at a company that i used to but I don’t work for anymore, but she had equipment that she needed to set up and was gonna ask me to come to her house to set it up.

I kinda just ignored that, cause she said her sister did it instead. So then she tells me about the tour for a moment, then ask me about my children with me in my Linkden profile pic. Then ask if I was in a relationship or married. Then told me where she lived and said I can come bring the kids so they can play in the park while we hangout. Then she asked me to go to a concert with her this Saturday. Then told me her husband just passed and she really needed some male companionship.

Then she said, ion mean to come off so strong but I’m too old to beat around the bush.

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She asked me how old I was and when I told her my age she said she like em young..she got to be like in her 50’s or 60’s

aye …I respect her gangsta..more women need to be like her.

I didn’t have the heart to flat out turn her down, she was so nice and direct, I told her I’ll consider it. Then blocked the number when I hung up.

And..And..where she live, you gotta have dough to live there!!!
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This might be top 3 woatest stories I ever read on here

*Removes from MySpace Top 5*
 
Alle'Oop said:
U right, I’ll unblock her and let her know what’s up if she contact me again. The convo happened today so as far as I know she didn’t hit me back. But thanks for checking me, it would hurt her even more
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Yeah I would say it straight....she said she don't have time to beat around the bush. Tell her you apreciate all the information she gave about the tour. Be upfront about how your not interested in anything more than friends. And invite her to do a episode on your podcast. Shit she can talk relationships, being a cougar, (it could be a real interesting) episode.

Could be a deeper meaning as to why yall connected. 🤔 I wouldn't brush it off. Sounds like yall spoke for a good minute...so she must have not been that off-putting.

Also what age was the oldest woman you have been with? Are you not interested in her because you think she won't be able to do all that 50 shades of grey shit you into?
 
Alle'Oop said:
She’s lonely because she said she was, without saying she was, and she’s vulnerable cause her husband just died and she literally said she just wants male companionship. I know the male way of thinking is “she wants the dick”. But the humane way of responding is to know she’s in pain and looking to numb it. We do stupid shit when we numb the pain. Like inviting complete strangers to our home based off of a internet profile pic.
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Playmaker88 said:
@Alle'Oop is sexist and assuming what if she wanted to take control siezed the dake snd not lead a sexless post hsuband life but noo noo yoibcalled her lonley and vulnerable because she is a woman

For shame

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Translation

1. is sexist and assuming = Alle is making assumptions and therefore is being sexist.

2. what if she wanted to take control siezed the dake=She knows what she wants.Which is to seize Alle's dick & take control.

3.snd not lead a sexless post hsuband life = she may want to still have sex even though her husband has transitioned.

4. but noo noo yoibcalled her lonley and vulnerable because she is a woman For shame = Alle is viewing this woman as weak and taken over by her recent lost and that if this were a man Alle wouldn't use these words or react this way.
 
Alle'Oop said:
She’s lonely because she said she was, without saying she was, and she’s vulnerable cause her husband just died and she literally said she just wants male companionship. I know the male way of thinking is “she wants the dick”. But the humane way of responding is to know she’s in pain and looking to numb it. We do stupid shit when we numb the pain. Like inviting complete strangers to our home based off of a internet profile pic.
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This sounds very mature until you factor in the fact that you ghosted her. It sounds like she was pretty straightforward with you so maybe you should show her the same courtesy.
 
royalascension said:
Yeah I would say it straight....she said she don't have time to beat around the bush. Tell her you apreciate all the information she gave about the tour. Be upfront about how your not interested in anything more than friends. And invite her to do a episode on your podcast. Shit she can talk relationships, being a cougar, (it could be a real interesting) episode.

Could be a deeper meaning as to why yall connected. 🤔 I wouldn't brush it off. Sounds like yall spoke for a good minute...so she must have not been that off-putting.

Also what age was the oldest woman you have been with? Are you not interested in her because you think she won't be able to do all that 50 shades of grey shit you into?
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How we came across each other took a lot of coincidences, so maybe there’s a meaning. I mean soon as I unblocked her cause of the great advice here, she called me..no bullshit. That…shit was unreal

oldest has been 7 years older than me at different times,I always deal with women older than me. I’m not interested not because her age, like I said, she looks good and outside of her getting at me. She seems really smart, informative, self aware, and level headed..she would be my type.

the circumstances around it is an emotional storm I gained wisdom to avoid
 
Alle'Oop said:
I pussied out and didn’t answer
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But…I texted her and told her ima talk to her in the AM
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Had she called? You can tell if a block number tried to reach you ....well on my phone I can lol

But that's dope you recognize or have the awareness of how what she is coming at you with is not for you. This whole situation could be just for your inner knowing and a way to be a "good" human by actually being a male companion.

And I don't know how nice you were on the phone...but yeah she called back quick. She excited to have a potential new friend.

I had my first situation with a old old dude last year..we ain't do nothing. But it was very much he wanted a friend lol
 
royalascension said:
Had she called? You can tell if a block number tried to reach you ....well on my phone I can lol

But that's dope you recognize or have the awareness of how what she is coming at you with is not for you. This whole situation could be just for your inner knowing and a way to be a "good" human by actually being a male companion.

And I don't know how nice you were on the phone...but yeah she called back quick. She excited to have a potential new friend.

I had my first situation with a old old dude last year..we ain't do nothing. But it was very much he wanted a friend lol
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I blocked a few bill collectors and I never see that they call. I think I can if I tried, but ion care. Not that I don’t pay my bills, it’s just a few of these places call within days of missing a payment, they act like they never got their money before. At most I maybe have been 10 days past due on any bill, and often times it’s been cause I just didn’t feel like logging on and paying it. As far as the convo, …I mean, ima nice guy, I changed the subject or made an excuse to deter da come ons…I didn’t expect to be persistent. And I actually wanted to know about the tour
 
Alle'Oop said:
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Y’all been right so far, so…ok
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But what happened with the woman from your job? When you said you had a story to tell, I thought it was going to be about that situation. How you was saying they all talk about you...or something like that. You remember?
 
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