OPINION Friends of the opposite sex and S/O

[Golden]

I had something opposite happen to me.

I had a bestfriend of the opposite sex for many years. I told him everything and he did the same. We confided in each other, gave advice, alluh that. Never had one thought about him sexually or any awkward attraction. He was truly my brother from another mother.

I knew about all of his gfs and all the women he used to talk to. It was one in particular he would always talk about every now and again, even if he was in a relationship with someone. He would tell me how he missed her, how he messed up, and how he took advantage of and hurt such a great person.

Well, I finally told him to just hit her up if he missed her so much. Uhh fst fwd, they got back together. She and I weren't really sociable with each other in the beginning. He would still talk to me about his issues or whatever, but as time moved on, her and I spoke more. We had a lot in common. I started to see how cool of a person she really was.
Usually Id take his side in most cases, but it was bc I only had his version of stories. Now she had begin to confide in me, and I would start to call him out on his wrongings.

He had got so angry with me one day bc I took his girl's side over him. He told me I was his friend, not her, and I could tell he was genuinely hurt by it. He was talking to me as if I had ran his heart over then stomped all over it. He said he felt a little betrayed.

Needless to say, I became closer to her and grew further apart from him. His girlfriend took his bestfriend away.

I miss him:cry:.

Spoiler

Way to go @Remedy :nigga2:

is this the true story of you and @Remedy's origin story? or well-written trolling? I can't tell

 

[Judge Dread]

I had something opposite happen to me.

I had a bestfriend of the opposite sex for many years. I told him everything and he did the same. We confided in each other, gave advice, alluh that. Never had one thought about him sexually or any awkward attraction. He was truly my brother from another mother.

I knew about all of his gfs and all the women he used to talk to. It was one in particular he would always talk about every now and again, even if he was in a relationship with someone. He would tell me how he missed her, how he messed up, and how he took advantage of and hurt such a great person.

Well, I finally told him to just hit her up if he missed her so much. Uhh fst fwd, they got back together. She and I weren't really sociable with each other in the beginning. He would still talk to me about his issues or whatever, but as time moved on, her and I spoke more. We had a lot in common. I started to see how cool of a person she really was.
Usually Id take his side in most cases, but it was bc I only had his version of stories. Now she had begin to confide in me, and I would start to call him out on his wrongings.

He had got so angry with me one day bc I took his girl's side over him. He told me I was his friend, not her, and I could tell he was genuinely hurt by it. He was talking to me as if I had ran his heart over then stomped all over it. He said he felt a little betrayed.

Needless to say, I became closer to her and grew further apart from him. His girlfriend took his bestfriend away.

I miss him:cry:.

Spoiler

Way to go @Remedy :nigga2:

You can’t be mad at him for that. You were his friend first.

 

[Golden]

You can’t be mad at him for that. You were his friend first.

should friends be blindly loyal though? If someone is your friend first, but they become your wife's friend too, and they learn that you'd been doing your wife a lot more wrong than you'd led on, can you blame them for beginning to sympathize with her side more than yours when they have the full facts of a situation?

 

[Black 🖤]

is this the true story of you and @Remedy's origin story? or well-written trolling? I can't tell

True story

 

[Golden]

True story

that's how y'all met? this is wild.

 

[Black 🖤]

You can’t be mad at him for that. You were his friend first.

I was his friend first, but I am allowed to call my friend out if they're wrong. That's what I did and he got mad lol.

 

[Eartha Clit]

My best friend and I became best friends after finding out we were dating the same guy at the same damn time. It’s a weird ass story. She ended up moving in my neighborhood. A street away from me. What are the odds?

He was wrong, she had no clue. Neither did I. We went to go visit him together a few years after. He was very uncomfortable.

 

[IP360]

Nope.

Who am I to tell her what friends she can and cannot keep? Especially friends that was in the picture before we hooked up. Naw.

We too grown for that.

 

[Eartha Clit]

I was his friend first, but I am allowed to call my friend out if they're wrong. That's what I did and he got mad lol.

So do y’all communicate at all?

 

[Eartha Clit]

Nope.

Who am I to tell her what friends she can and cannot keep? Especially friends that was in the picture before we hooked up. Naw.

We too grown for that.

So you cool with opposite sex friends?

 

[Black 🖤]

So do y’all communicate at all?

Nah lol. I have no idea where he is anymore.

 

[Judge Dread]

should friends be blindly loyal though? If someone is your friend first, but they become your wife's friend too, and they learn that you'd been doing your wife a lot more wrong than you'd led on, can you blame them for beginning to sympathize with her side more than yours when they have the full facts of a situation?

There are three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth. If my friend were to become friends with my wife they should try to be as impartial as possible and carefully navigate calling me out without destroying our friendship because yes you were my friend first. But I believe sometimes it is easier for people of the same sex to see the side of that shared sex.( I said sometimes so please don’t attack)

 

[Goldie]

I had something opposite happen to me.

I had a bestfriend of the opposite sex for many years. I told him everything and he did the same. We confided in each other, gave advice, alluh that. Never had one thought about him sexually or any awkward attraction. He was truly my brother from another mother.

I knew about all of his gfs and all the women he used to talk to. It was one in particular he would always talk about every now and again, even if he was in a relationship with someone. He would tell me how he missed her, how he messed up, and how he took advantage of and hurt such a great person.

Well, I finally told him to just hit her up if he missed her so much. Uhh fst fwd, they got back together. She and I weren't really sociable with each other in the beginning. He would still talk to me about his issues or whatever, but as time moved on, her and I spoke more. We had a lot in common. I started to see how cool of a person she really was.
Usually Id take his side in most cases, but it was bc I only had his version of stories. Now she had begin to confide in me, and I would start to call him out on his wrongings.

He had got so angry with me one day bc I took his girl's side over him. He told me I was his friend, not her, and I could tell he was genuinely hurt by it. He was talking to me as if I had ran his heart over then stomped all over it. He said he felt a little betrayed.

Needless to say, I became closer to her and grew further apart from him. His girlfriend took his bestfriend away.

I miss him:cry:.

Spoiler

Way to go @Remedy :nigga2:

U stealing nigga's chicks outchea? lmaooo

 

[Eartha Clit]

Nah lol. I have no idea where he is anymore.

That sucks. At least you got @Remedy though.

 

[Judge Dread]

@Remedy we are all happy that the two of you became friends but he expected his friend to always deal with him as his friend first and then your friend. I could completely be wrong but I don’t think that is too much to expect.

 

[Remedy]

I had something opposite happen to me.

I had a bestfriend of the opposite sex for many years. I told him everything and he did the same. We confided in each other, gave advice, alluh that. Never had one thought about him sexually or any awkward attraction. He was truly my brother from another mother.

I knew about all of his gfs and all the women he used to talk to. It was one in particular he would always talk about every now and again, even if he was in a relationship with someone. He would tell me how he missed her, how he messed up, and how he took advantage of and hurt such a great person.

Well, I finally told him to just hit her up if he missed her so much. Uhh fst fwd, they got back together. She and I weren't really sociable with each other in the beginning. He would still talk to me about his issues or whatever, but as time moved on, her and I spoke more. We had a lot in common. I started to see how cool of a person she really was.
Usually Id take his side in most cases, but it was bc I only had his version of stories. Now she had begin to confide in me, and I would start to call him out on his wrongings.

He had got so angry with me one day bc I took his girl's side over him. He told me I was his friend, not her, and I could tell he was genuinely hurt by it. He was talking to me as if I had ran his heart over then stomped all over it. He said he felt a little betrayed.

Needless to say, I became closer to her and grew further apart from him. His girlfriend took his bestfriend away.

I miss him:cry:.

Spoiler

Way to go @Remedy :nigga2:

Welllll, just like his ass didn't realize what he had with me as his chick, he didn't realize what he had with you as a friend. So now you're mine.

I didn't set out to steal you but you know that man did me dirty af. He always would pop up when I was doing good or getting over him. He encouraged our friendship at the beginning. He wanted me to be close with you, I think in part to keep an eye on me or deter me from my other friends whom he did not care for.

Guess I should thank him for you though.

#IWon

 

[Judge Dread]

But he lost the friend and the girl. Then his best friend becomes great friends with the girl. I going to Iditate on this one.

 

[Eartha Clit]

Welllll, just like his ass didn't realize what he had with me as his chick, he didn't realize what he had with you as a friend. So now you're mine.

I didn't set out to steal you but you know that man did me dirty af. He always would pop up when I was doing good or getting over him. He encouraged our friendship at the beginning. He wanted me to be close with you, I think in part to keep an eye on me or deter me from my other friends whom he did not care for.

Guess I should thank him for you though.

#IWon

Is this the same guy you played G.I Joe with?

 

[Eartha Clit]

But he lost the friend and the girl. Then his best friend becomes great friends with the girl. I going to Iditate on this one.

That’s his loss.

 

[Knock_Twice]

Man this a tough one, I mean I don't wanna be an asshole about the situation but at the same time, I would hope homeboy of herz understood the code of relationships which for me is "my woman aint got no male friends to kee-kee wit unless they are her cousins" only exception, is if the nigga taking dick up his ass and into men. And that nigga still gotta ease up on the calling after 7 p.m.

It just get too messy, nerves already bad