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BNE said:
u can lead someone on if ur actions contradict ur words. if she said that and felt like her feelings were reciprocated, its worth reflecting on whether u had been giving her the impression u wanted something more serious than u do. it happens often.
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Quick question

When you say leading someone on, is it more so the person who were led on fault than it is the person that's supposedly leading on the person?

I never understood the whole (lead me on) statement
 
BNE said:
if someone has told u that they don't want something serious, but they treat u as though they did and u let ur hope of them changing their mind get out of hand, then yes it's the fault of the person who has been 'led on'. but... at the same time, the person who is allegedly doing the leading blurred the boundaries.

if someone has told u they want something serious, then pulls a bait n switch cuz that wasn't really what they wanted, then the person who misled the other about their desires is in the wrong.

I see the former very often tho. "yes, he said he doesn't want a relationship but he talks on the phone with me every night and introduced me to his mom. I'm confused." is more common (from what I've seen) than "he said he wanted something serious then didn't call me back after smashing".
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Knock_Twice said:
Quick question

When you say leading someone on, is it more so the person who were led on fault than it is the person that's supposedly leading on the person?

I never understood the whole (lead me on) statement
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if you just tryna fuck, dont buy her shit or do shit for her she's expressed to you that she likes

thats you leading her on if you do
 
leading someone on is treating a chick you just fuckig like your girlfriend....

or allowing someone to think yall closer than they you feel yall really are....

like if a chick rubbing your dick through your pants with her hand....and u thinking that's a clear sign that she ready to do the damn thing... but she had absolutely no intention of doing such

it's all about not being honest with ur intentions with someone...when you clearly know their intentions
 
BNE said:
u can lead someone on if ur actions contradict ur words. if she said that and felt like her feelings were reciprocated, its worth reflecting on whether u had been giving her the impression u wanted something more serious than u do. it happens often.
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Well in that case that's her/him problem because from the jump they knew what it was prior to any feelings occurred. It's up to them to reevaluate their situation to either stay or jump ship.
 
AP21 said:
if you just tryna fuck, dont buy her shit or do shit for her she's expressed to you that she likes

thats you leading her on if you do
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I don't get it breh?

So don't do nothing she likes? but you think she's still gonna let you fuck?

That works for you?
 
AP21 said:
if you just tryna fuck, dont buy her shit or do shit for her she's expressed to you that she likes

thats you leading her on if you do
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naw.....as long as everyone expresses their intentions.... this doesn't fly...

i sued to tell chicks all the time i don't do attachments, i just like to have fun for the moment......

so we did tons of fun ashit......but whenever they asked certain questions i'd remind the i don't really do attachments.....

shit might've been brutal, but there was never a misconception of where we stood.....

i tried the same thing with lady du, but she was like

"MINES!!!!!"
 
Bum From Bmore said:
leading someone on is treating a chick you just fuckig like your girlfriend....

or allowing someone to think yall closer than they you feel yall really are....

like if a chick rubbing your dick through your pants with her hand....and u thinking that's a clear sign that she ready to do the damn thing... but she had absolutely no intention of doing such

it's all about not being honest with ur intentions with someone...when you clearly know their intentions
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What if you're just doing things you both like though? talking on the phone, going out to dinner, texting her good morning and good night, I mean, is that leading someone on or just living?

Again is it the dude fault that he's doing that or is it her fault she's catching feelings when dude hasn't mutter a word about wanting to fuck/be with her/wife her/ or anything
 
Knock_Twice said:
What if you're just doing things you both like though? talking on the phone, going out to dinner, texting her good morning and good night, I mean, is that leading someone on or just living?

Again is it the dude fault that he's doing that or is it her fault she's catching feelings when dude hasn't mutter a word about wanting to fuck/be with her/wife her/ or anything
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again as long as he's clear about his intentions.....and she's being honest about hers....

like if all come to an agreement yall just fuck buddies, or yall just hanging out but not committing....it needs to be vocalized on the regular basis......

i mean i know it sounds stupid, but it always worked for me......i used to run that shit in the hole
 
Knock_Twice said:
What if you're just doing things you both like though? talking on the phone, going out to dinner, texting her good morning and good night, I mean, is that leading someone on or just living?

Again is it the dude fault that he's doing that or is it her fault she's catching feelings when dude hasn't mutter a word about wanting to fuck/be with her/wife her/ or anything
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It's both their fault if they didn't establish anything before hand.
 
My line is "I'm not looking for a relationship but if it happens, I'm not against it. I just want shit to flow."

Those are my intentions. Not looking for a man but not blocking it from happening which lets you know if we are talking a lot, there is a possibility feelings will develop.
 
Kandy said:
It's both their fault if they didn't establish anything before hand.
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I agree, but the person that's having fun has to say "oh I just wanna hang out and be a good friend/have fun at the moment"

That shouldn't be necessary right? Why is it that the person who catches feelings, don't check their feelings 1st?
 
you can't control your emotions, but you can communicate them.

and it's important, responsible and essential to always communicate them.

if you catching feelings, it's your responsibility to express them.....

i always told chicks i love having fun and hanging out n all, but i just can't do relationships.....it ain't my thing.....

i used to tell my wife we was a summer fling, and it is what it is.....

she was just stubborn....and i really was catching feelings too, but i was trying hard as fuck to stick to my script...

i never trusted relationships, and i always felt it was my responsibility to let females know that
 
Knock_Twice said:
I agree, but the person that's having fun has to say "oh I just wanna hang out and be a good friend/have fun at the moment"

That shouldn't be necessary right? Why is it that the person who catches feelings, don't check their feelings 1st?
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YES

aight...another example...if you just wanna fuck, and the chick wanna invite you to a homegirl wedding as her +1...do you go?
 
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