2 of you can't exist in the same place at once. Based off the past post you have made about yourself, you don't like people and like your space. You don't seem to be that empathetic to other people's emotions or maybe you are confused by them. I believe you said you are selfish at times but correct me if I'm wrong. You don't like to go to places to socialize. You like for a convo to be sparked up organically. Now ask your self, is that the kind of lady you really want? How would you find a person that doesn't speak to other people, that doesnt go to social places, that wants the meet up or convo to happen organically but won't put in the effort to make that meeting or convo happen? Don't wait for opportunity, seek it out. If y'all both waiting for opportunity, most likely you both will miss each other.