Race Jones
gangster. grace. alchemy
@Race Jones I hope you were joking about some of the ones you listed.
But yes, most if it was jokes.
@Race Jones I hope you were joking about some of the ones you listed.
Very interesting question. It's a rare kind of love that can last to the grave, rare to the point where imo it's the exception not the rule.It really made me question if til death do us part has become antiquated.
Even on vacation? How about a Cubano in Cuba?I don't want my man rocking a fedora lurker.
Is that too much to ask?
Even on vacation? How about a Cubano in Cuba?
Very interesting question. It's a rare kind of love that can last to the grave, rare to the point where imo it's the exception not the rule.
I think there is something to be said here.
If you have low self-esteem, you should not be trying to enter into a relationship.
POINT. BLANK. PERIOD.
as @BNE said, doing your Innerwork is so important.
Often we get into situations with people and expect them to fix us.
Expect them to love away our shortcomings and misfortunes and that's just not that case.
Its also very unfair to the other person.
Nobody is perfect, we all have our flaws but there is a thin line between love and emotional manipulation.
Being in a relationship with an insecure partner can really affect your health and self-esteem.
My mother is a brilliant, bright, beautiful woman.
When she got with my dad she lost so much of herself, she grew cold because my father had so many emotional insecurities that he brought her down. He changed her life.
I saw a man destroy a woman's world because he didn't do his innerwork.
I saw a woman participating in the destruction of her life because she spent so much time trying to "fix" someone else.
I've made excuses for a lot of men...
"he has daddy issues"
"he was hurt so many times in the past"
"the last woman in his life did him greasy so this is why he doesn't trust me"
and it was emotionally draining. I started losing myself trying to "fix" my partner.
Trying to show them what real love looks like and feels like.
I don't have that type of time anymore.
I'm 27 now and I don't have time to make excuses for other peoples inadequacies.
SHIT IS SHIT.
Also how can you love someone else if you don't love yourself?
How you want me to love you and you dont even love you?
How you want me to be cool with you and youre not even cool with you?
Look, stop running from yourself and clean up your mess.
Handle your fucking business!!!
Because I'm not going to do it for you.
Everything you said. Plus, marriage meant something different in the past. People married more frequently for reasons that had nothing to do with affection, usually out of financial need or familial expectations/duties. Marriage was just what you did when you were of age, it wasn't even a question of IF you'd do it. If a marriage didn't start due to love, and divorce was frowned upon back then, it's not surprising that people would stay together to the grave more frequently considering the standards they went into it with. It wasn't romanticized back then, it was practical. Now there's notions of love and romance attached to it, which isn't a bad thing but I can see why it might be viewed as such by the "no divorce at any cost, it's a social ill, make it work" camp.Plus religion aside, I feel that people tend to forget that our life span is much longer than it used to be so being married until death even for healthy adults wasn't typically 50, 60 years. Not saying there aren't people that are married for decades until death but I think in our current society you will see less and less of this and I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing.
I think relations last longer with a little bit of need mixed in. Your want may fade but need last longer. My grandparents loved each other for sure and as a child I based all relationships on them but as I got older and heard stories about their relationship I knew there was a whole lot of need. They were also raised in a different time and maybe because of roles now and everyone wanting to be equals people don't need each other anymore. But there are people in this thread that are bringing the need back because when they get sick someone has to call 911.Everything you said. Plus, marriage meant something different in the past. People married more frequently for reasons that had nothing to do with affection, usually out of financial need or familial expectations/duties. Marriage was just what you did when you were of age, it wasn't even a question of IF you'd do it. If a marriage didn't start due to love, and divorce was frowned upon back then, it's not surprising that people would stay together to the grave more frequently considering the standards they went into it with. It wasn't romanticized back then, it was practical. Now there's notions of love and romance attached to it, which isn't a bad thing but I can see why it might be viewed as such by the "no divorce at any cost, it's a social ill, make it work" camp.
I can't even wear one and I am defending them.Smh this mf talkin bout fedoras
My problem with relationships based on need is that people are more willing to overlook things, which isn't a good thing in my personal view.I think relations last longer with a little bit of need mixed in. Your want may fade but need last longer. My grandparents loved each other for sure and as a child I based all relationships on them but as I got older and heard stories about their relationship I knew there was a whole lot of need. They were also raised in a different time and maybe because of roles now and everyone wanting to be equals people don't need each other anymore. But there are people in this thread that are bringing the need back because when they get sick someone has to call 911.
*I* do all that.Oh so u want a spankin?