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Woman Goes Viral Off Her Cooking; Women Are Upset

Young Black folks need to go back to church just so they can't get their grievances mediated by the couples that survived side babies, fights, murders, prison time, and etc.

Unfortunately social media became the place for Black folks to mediate and negotiate romantic relationships.

CookingwithKya's success is a product of class and gender.

Black women are more aspirational thinking than Black men due to their access to higher education which is due to their gender.

So, a young Black woman goes to college, get her 2.5 degrees, comes into contact with a higher strata people and see's what is possible, she is going to want different things that aren't in the realm of the Black American Experience but she is going to hit the glass ceiling.

Then you have your round the way girl that is average that fits the average Black American Experience, that caters to it and don't try to transcend it...who is going to be more successful?

The pretty girl with her GAP model looks is crying about the more popular girl that can't cook, can't dress but is winning because she ain't trying to do anything but be herself and cater to male counterpart to get that bag.

Your success comes from your people, not your efforts alone.
 
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What's wrong with that?

Part of relationships is finding someone that can do the things you can't or don't want to do.
You don't go into it with the intention of looking for this

I'm not gonna intentionally marry someone who's better at money cause I'm not. In the course of us dating then deciding to get married, that's a conversation we can have as a unit but I'm not telling women on dates "I hope you're better at finances than I am cause...."

Being able to cook isn't limited to women. It's a survival skill. If you're a man and don't know how to cook then you have failed.
 
You don't go into it with the intention of looking for this

I'm not gonna intentionally marry someone who's better at money cause I'm not. In the course of us dating then deciding to get married, that's a conversation we can have as a unit but I'm not telling women on dates "I hope you're better at finances than I am cause...."

Being able to cook isn't limited to women. It's a survival skill. If you're a man and don't know how to cook then you have fail

People admire others because they cannot do what the other person can do.

Everyone cannot cook. Infact, most people can't cook. Most people cannot cook a 1 star 3 course meal.

If you come across a woman that can cook 2 star meals, and you like to eat, why would you not get with her for that? She took the time to learn how to cook that well because she wants to be admired for it. Cooking is a form of expression, it's not just a survival skill. A big ass pot of spaghetti to last the whole week ain't what most people think about when they think about food they want to eat for pleasure.

It's the same thing with money, most people don't got 20K saved in cash. If you can't do that because of various reasons, and you should find someone that is good with money so it can rub off on you.

You only gonna be as good or bad as the people that you are around. If someone loves you and cares about you and they are good with money, they are going to teach you not hold it against you.

Same with cooking, I only got really good at cooking because one of my girlfriends was a chef and I wanted to be able to cook her a Christmas dinner that she would approve of because she always cooked magnificent meals for me. I can really really cook because of her.

I became a good painter and sketch artist because I fell in love with an artist and she made a portrait of me. I said, "That's very beautiful, teach me." She taught me how paint, I took care of her through her MFA. I paint and draw because of her.

Most of the things that I have gotten good at besides the things I was naturally predisposed to is because someone that I admired loved me enough to teach me and I openly said I love you because you can do this and I can't. Most people don't see it as a red flag. A mate is gonna find out all the things you are terrible at anyway and they are gonna find out what they can live with and what they can't. Might as well get in front of it.
 
Being a chef and knowing how to use basic kitchen items are not the same

Protein
Carb
Green

This is a pretty standard setup.
 
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