ImaInfluenza
Who do you think you are? I am
If you are a mindful individual either before, after, or during having children. No one tells you about what that shit does to you. If you are the type that seeks to break generational curses. Such as how your parent spoke to you, how your parent dealt with you, the financial status of your family etc.
You soon learn that it wasn’t just your parent. It was their parents, and the parents of your parents that handed down ways of raising children that lead to how you were parented.
So now, you have to parent yourself into being a better individual all while parenting your kids. When your kids are younger this is easier because they mostly just do as you say. But the older they get, the more they watch, absorb, and question, and now it can’t just be what you say.
You have to back up what you say with actions. Which means now you have to walk into the fires of your fears, so you can gain the experience to be able to hold their hand through the same fears.
This shit changes you, it scares you, frustrates you, challenges you, pushes you, makes you question yourself and your ability to parent. This the shit they don’t tell you. This the shit that make you be like, I can see why parents bail. Shit is hard, hardest shit you’ll ever have to do.
If you are a parent and you understand where I’m coming from. All I can say to you, is the fact that you understand this shit, means that you are a great parent. You may question yourself but know that everyone don’t understand, that’s why you are special.
That’s why you will break generational cruses. This the shit they don’t tell you.
You soon learn that it wasn’t just your parent. It was their parents, and the parents of your parents that handed down ways of raising children that lead to how you were parented.
So now, you have to parent yourself into being a better individual all while parenting your kids. When your kids are younger this is easier because they mostly just do as you say. But the older they get, the more they watch, absorb, and question, and now it can’t just be what you say.
You have to back up what you say with actions. Which means now you have to walk into the fires of your fears, so you can gain the experience to be able to hold their hand through the same fears.
This shit changes you, it scares you, frustrates you, challenges you, pushes you, makes you question yourself and your ability to parent. This the shit they don’t tell you. This the shit that make you be like, I can see why parents bail. Shit is hard, hardest shit you’ll ever have to do.
If you are a parent and you understand where I’m coming from. All I can say to you, is the fact that you understand this shit, means that you are a great parent. You may question yourself but know that everyone don’t understand, that’s why you are special.
That’s why you will break generational cruses. This the shit they don’t tell you.