What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)? Can we talk about it?

[DOS_patos]

For most people, emotional intelligence (EQ) is more important than one’s intelligence (IQ) in attaining success in their lives and careers. As individuals our success and the success of the profession today depend on our ability to read other people’s signals and react appropriately to them.

Therefore, each one of us must develop the mature emotional intelligence skills required to better understand, empathize and negotiate with other people — particularly as the economy has become more global. Otherwise, success will elude us in our lives and careers.


“Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them,” says Howard Gardner, the influential Harvard theorist. Five major categories of emotional intelligence skills are recognized by researchers in this area.
Understanding the Five Categories of Emotional Intelligence (EQ)


1. Self-awareness. The ability to recognize an emotion as it “happens” is the key to your EQ. Developing self-awareness requires tuning in to your true feelings. If you evaluate your emotions, you can manage them. The major elements of self-awareness are:

• Emotional awareness. Your ability to recognize your own emotions and their effects.
• Self-confidence. Sureness about your self-worth and capabilities.

2. Self-regulation. You often have little control over when you experience emotions. You can, however, have some say in how long an emotion will last by using a number of techniques to alleviate negative emotions such as anger, anxiety or depression. A few of these techniques include recasting a situation in a more positive light, taking a long walk and meditation or prayer. Self-regulation involves

• Self-control. Managing disruptive impulses.
• Trustworthiness. Maintaining standards of honesty and integrity.
• Conscientiousness. Taking responsibility for your own performance.
• Adaptability. Handling change with flexibility.
• Innovation. Being open to new ideas.

3. Motivation. To motivate yourself for any achievement requires clear goals and a positive attitude. Although you may have a predisposition to either a positive or a negative attitude, you can with effort and practice learn to think more positively. If you catch negative thoughts as they occur, you can reframe them in more positive terms — which will help you achieve your goals. Motivation is made up of:

• Achievement drive. Your constant striving to improve or to meet a standard of excellence.
• Commitment. Aligning with the goals of the group or organization.
• Initiative. Readying yourself to act on opportunities.
• Optimism. Pursuing goals persistently despite obstacles and setbacks.

4. Empathy. The ability to recognize how people feel is important to success in your life and career. The more skillful you are at discerning the feelings behind others’ signals the better you can control the signals you send them. An empathetic person excels at:

• Service orientation. Anticipating, recognizing and meeting clients’ needs.
• Developing others. Sensing what others need to progress and bolstering their abilities.
• Leveraging diversity. Cultivating opportunities through diverse people.
• Political awareness. Reading a group’s emotional currents and power relationships.
• Understanding others. Discerning the feelings behind the needs and wants of others.

5. Social skills. The development of good interpersonal skills is tantamount to success in your life and career. In today’s always-connected world, everyone has immediate access to technical knowledge. Thus, “people skills” are even more important now because you must possess a high EQ to better understand, empathize and negotiate with others in a global economy. Among the most useful skills are:

• Influence. Wielding effective persuasion tactics.
• Communication. Sending clear messages.
• Leadership. Inspiring and guiding groups and people.
• Change catalyst. Initiating or managing change.
• Conflict management. Understanding, negotiating and resolving disagreements.
• Building bonds. Nurturing instrumental relationships.
• Collaboration and cooperation. Working with others toward shared goals.
• Team capabilities. Creating group synergy in pursuing collective goals.

What factors are at play when people of high IQ fail and those of modest IQ succeed?
How well you do in your life and career is determined by both. IQ alone is not enough; EQ also matters. In fact, psychologists generally agree that among the ingredients for success, IQ counts for roughly 10% (at best 25%); the rest depends on everything else — including EQ.
A study of Harvard graduates in business, law, medicine and teaching showed a negative or zero correlation between an IQ indicator (entrance exam scores) and subsequent career success. Three examples illustrate the importance of emotional competencies.

 

[AP3.0]

my coworker recommended the book

hadnt gotten to it yet

 

[DOS_patos]

my coworker recommended the book

hadnt gotten to it yet

i feel like alot of people lack this,.
i could use some work on it myself.

 

[Mooney]

This is why i fux with @DOS_patos
Keep churning this shit out

 

[Mooney]

Let me find one of those test for us to do on EQ

 

[Mooney]

We can all use a boost in our EQ. Let us build a better(us) you

 

[Eclipsed9]

I really need to work on this. I don’t think my EQ is very high

 

[DOS_patos]

I really need to work on this. I don’t think my EQ is very high

i know my problem is...or one of them is....i am all about listening to others...but if they dont even attempt to consider other options or think critically..i tend to write them off and stick to only my point.

but other than that...i love to listen to other options. you can learn alot.

 

[DOS_patos]

i dont tend to mesh well with tribal ways of thinking.
simply because most of the time people are agreeing with the crowd and dont know why they fell the way they do nor can they articulate it.

 

[Ville'sFinest]

Wonen are naturally stronger at this. Men typically lack because shamed to degree. EQ Is actually much more valuable than IQ in real world day to day. Because typical person is not that intelligent or rational for one lol.

 

[Rubato]

Males don’t fully mature emotionally until age 43 (I think, it may be older)

 

[konceptjones]

Emotions are for the weak...

 

[CeLLar-DooR]

My EQ is dope. Sometimes I wonder how other people get thru life, seemingly not understandin' the basics of human interaction.

That said, I myself don't emote well at all

 

[DOS_patos]

Bump

 

[12bitCounsel]

There’s people that can identify the sex of baby chicks on sight with 98 percent accuracy even though there’s no clear indicator of difference from one another. It’s not an intellectual feat, it’s more of intuitive or emotional one I think.

I think overall EQ’s practicality is despised, under appreciated and not taught enough for how certainly important it is in many given contexts. But a good blend of both intellect and emotional intelligence is where it’s at.