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Good Parenting?

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is she just giving it to her or making her earn it?

just giving her 7 and taking 5 without her earning aint really teaching her nothing.

cant miss what you never worked for
 
I think it's good parenting because it isn't like she's making this child go out to work and then pay her rent. SHE's giving this child an allowance for nothing and then having the child pay rent to them.

Wish she'd phrased it as "savings" instead of rent, so that she could encourage the child to have property or invest as opposed to stay generation rent.
Sam Crooke said:
Plot twist... she not really putting the $5 in a savings account. She spending it on herself
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yeah, that'd be bad but unsurprising lol
 
Maybe as a teenager, I’d slowly introduce this to my child but a damn 5 year old?!

Nah. One of the best things about being a kid is being worry free.

They should be trying to learn to ride a bike and doing CHILDISH things.
 
Eh, no.
I'm allowing my child to be a child, people have this habit of letting their fears determine how much they allow their children to actually be children. This doesn't happen in toddler years, it happens during infancy as well. People rushing for their babies to be more "independent". In a few groups I had to tell broads like ummm, ma'am your baby is only 6 months what the FUCK is your baby suppose to do? Go in the fridge and make a plate or bottle and warm it themselves? Issa no for me dawg.
 
I cant say its bad parenting.

But I feel like 5 is just too young to learn about responsibility. I would be trying to perserve my kids innocence for atleast a few years longer.
 
5 years old is prolly one of the best ages in life, you should have no worries or anxieties and have a crazy imagination developing and running wild.. Treating the child as an adult and hitting home that life isnt magical and that in actual fact you cant do what you like is wack... You can still explain bills etc without taking their money and making them worry about paying things...

To hit home the realities of finance and responsibilities at like 12/early teenage years could be a good idea though, but let the child be a child and let them think they can do/be anything they want and not be bogged down by realities of life and responsibilities...
 
there is no certain age to teach responsibility.

it depends on the child.

again....just giving it to her is not teaching her anything.

nothing is free.

i mean when you realy think about it...is she enforcing the welfare mentality?

you gotta pay rent with free money?

think about that.

welfare is just like an allowance for doing nothing
 
^^I disagree. An allowance is nothing like welfare. An allowance is an financial teaching tool. It is a tool that helps to start teaching a child about how to manage a budget early on. Each week they spend money on small things within their allowance range. If they want more they have to negotiate a loan or save. It gives them life's early lessons on the importance of keeping their money on their person and stored safely. Like in their wallet, not just shoved in their pockets. The parents can use the allowance lesson to guide their child into how to make smart financial choices beyond the immediate obvious choices of candy bars and gum. But even those type of early choices teach a child small accounting lessons. Too many black parents sleep on the serious importance of early money management for their children. Some feel it's some type of frivolous gift for nothing while others just feel like it's "white people" stuff. It's something all parents need to implement as soon as possible. A five year old that can learn to successfully manage $5 a week is the same equivalent as teaching a man to fish. That kind of financial responsibility lasts a lifetime.
 
Babelipsss said:
^^I disagree. An allowance is nothing like welfare. An allowance is an financial teaching tool. It is a tool that helps to start teaching a child about how to manage a budget early on. Each week they spend money on small things within their allowance range. If they want more they have to negotiate a loan or save. It gives them life's early lessons on the importance of keeping their money on their person and stored safely. Like in their wallet, not just shoved in their pockets. The parents can use the allowance lesson to guide their child into how to make smart financial choices beyond the immediate obvious choices of candy bars and gum. But even those type of early choices teach a child small accounting lessons. Too many black parents sleep on the serious importance of early money management for their children. Some feel it's some type of frivolous gift for nothing while others just feel like it's "white people" stuff. It's something all parents need to implement as soon as possible. A five year old that can learn to successfully manage $5 a week is the same equivalent as teaching a man to fish. That kind of financial responsibility lasts a lifetime.
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would you take care of a car i give you vs a car you worked hard for?

welfare is to help those get back on their feet or get on their feet.

but if its given regardless....then whats the motivation to get on your feet? and thats why we have a welfare state. you become dependent on free money vs working for it. why work for something that someone gives you free.

while her mom has a good idea.....its not followed thru. so the full lesson is not being taught.

so if she wants to teach then teach the whole lesson. otherwise...whats her motivation? she has 2 free dollars for nothing and 5 dollars she never had so she wont miss it.

so again ...her mom has a good idea and heart is in the right place......but she aint following thru with the idea
 
DOS_patos said:
would you take care of a car i give you vs a car you worked hard for?

welfare is to help those get back on their feet or get on their feet.

but if its given regardless....then whats the motivation to get on your feet? and thats why we have a welfare state. you become dependent on free money vs working for it. why work for something that someone gives you free.

while her mom has a good idea.....its not followed thru. so the full lesson is not being taught.

so if she wants to teach then teach the whole lesson. otherwise...whats her motivation? she has 2 free dollars for nothing and 5 dollars she never had so she wont miss it.

so again ...her mom has a good idea and heart is in the right place......but she aint following thru with the idea
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An allowance for a child and welfare for a struggling adult are not the same thing. I don't know what to tell you. Shrugs.

That mother in the t/s is seriously misguided.

I would take care if any car (all my belongings) the same. Doesn't matter if it were a gift or not. Not sure how it makes a difference.
 
Babelipsss said:
An allowance for a child and welfare for a struggling adult are not the same thing. I don't know what to tell you. Shrugs.

That mother in the t/s is seriously misguided.

I would take care if any car (all my belongings) the same. Doesn't matter if it were a gift or not. Not sure how it makes a difference.
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it does make a difference....simply because most people will take whatever is given to them. they will keep it running...but when you worked for something...you do see it different because its yours and you know the work it took to get it.

i hear what you trying to say.
 
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