Is it lying if you withhold information? And Could you continue on with the situation?

Knock_Twice

Knock_Twice

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If a chick told you after you and her being kicking it for about 2-3months in, yall kicking it or dating, having a good time, she's now back smoking cigs and weed, She quit smoking or tried to before you all started yall situation, but she never told you none of this beforehand until now, now she's asking you when you're on your way over to her spot to stop at the liquor sto and pick her up a pack of Cools,

Do you feel slighted?

I used smoking because I don't be with smokers that long, a few smashes and I leave, shit gets in your clothes, but you can say alcoholic, she stopped and now she's bringing in a 12 pack of Budweiser's into her spot or you see them shits when you open up her fridge.

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RandomOne said:
I wouldn't care if she's got a 12 pack of beer. I'd question her beer choices though

Cigs is a different story. I just think that shit nasty and pretty much a deal breaker for me. I'm not trying to have her stink up my space too
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Even if you all have been kicking for a solid month or so, you cutting her off like that?
 
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Beer in the spot… nah that hoe got a Nigga besides you coming through


And fuck no with that smoking cigarette shit… weed ight long as she ain’t a damn pot head.
 
mryounggun said:
I’m very confused.
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You're dating a chick, she used to smoke cigs, (you don't know this) now you coming over to her crib and you see a cig in her ash tray, you may ask or ignore it, but for content, let's say that you asked her who cig is that or do you smoke:

She says, Yes I am a smoker, I tried quitting and it lasted for 3 weeks or a month, (before she met you), now she's back smoking 3 cigs a day, would that be a deal breaker and would you feel slighted that she didn't tell you that she was/is a smoker?

I used smoking because I don't rock with chicks who smoke cigs like that.
 
Duwop said:
I wouldn't give a shit
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You wouldn't give a shit with smoking or you wouldn't give a shit in regards to "anything" that you later find out?

Like she started back doing....... Coke or some shit...or wanting to be a dancer, she misses the night life.....Again, just examples

She could very well miss cooking for prisoners, a ministry, but are you ok with someone picking back up a good habit or bad one
 
Knock_Twice said:
You wouldn't give a shit with smoking or you wouldn't give a shit in regards to "anything" that you later find out?

Like she started back doing....... Coke or some shit...or wanting to be a dancer, she misses the night life.....Again, just examples

She could very well miss cooking for prisoners, a ministry, but are you ok with someone picking back up a good habit or bad one
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Her life, her past. If I got room for it in my life... I'll deal with it. If I don't, I won't. I don't necessarily judge people on things like this.. No one is obligated to tell you everything about their last past right away.

So if you decide to start doing something you used to do ... I'll just shrug it off. It ain't my life, and if I don't like it... I'll see my way out.
Drinking, smoking, stripping... Shit like that don't really move me one way or another.

Hard drugs though? As someone who never got into that, I would know that's just not for me. So I might not fuck with that. But most the other shit you talking seems pretty mild to me.
 
I definitely would not care about weed, alcohol, clubbing, stripping, cigarettes tho... Unless it proved to bring other problems with it. And I'm not going to make up problems...I would just make the decision to cross those bridges when we got to them. Or not.
 
Duwop said:
Her life, her past. If I got room for it in my life... I'll deal with it. If I don't, I won't. I don't necessarily judge people on things like this.. No one is obligated to tell you everything about their last past right away.

So if you decide to start doing something you used to do ... I'll just shrug it off. It ain't my life, and if I don't like it... I'll see my way out.
Drinking, smoking, stripping... Shit like that don't really move me one way or another.

Hard drugs though? As someone who never got into that, I would know that's just not for me. So I might not fuck with that. But most the other shit you talking seems pretty mild to me.
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Thread was inspired from a convo with a few old cats, one dude started dating (newly divorced) and he was saying how at first the girl he met didn't post on Social Media, even shunned it lol (his words, old nigga talk), he old school, he don't do social media and don't usually date anybody or want to date anybody whose always on it, but now he is finding out that the girl post something everyday on social media, says she always in her phone when they met up...she gotta check her phone...says he aint on that...said he fell back from her...

old nigga ways I guess, but that's where the idea of this thread came from....old ways/habits becoming new surprises to some.
 
Knock_Twice said:
Thread was inspired from a convo with a few old cats, one dude started dating (newly divorced) and he was saying how at first the girl he met didn't post on Social Media, even shunned it lol (his words, old nigga talk), he old school, he don't do social media and don't usually date anybody or want to date anybody whose always on it, but now he is finding out that the girl post something everyday on social media, says she always in her phone when they met up...she gotta check her phone...says he aint on that...said he fell back from her...

old nigga ways I guess, but that's where the idea of this thread came from....old ways/habits becoming new surprises to some.
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He sounds goofy, but if that's how he wants to move... It's his life.

Maybe he really hates social media.
 
Duwop said:
He sounds goofy, but if that's how he wants to move... It's his life.

Maybe he really hates social media.
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I get where he came from, I guess he was under the impression of, just tell me upfront that you fuck with SM and I wouldn't have waisted both of our times.... old niggas hate wasting time apparently

I got where he was coming from...then I thought it about it a chick slighted me like that on some...being a smoker, I be hot 38 too...especially when I met you, you didn't mentioned that you was a smoker...
 
It'd be a deal breaker for me. I couldn't date a cigarette smoker. But nah, I wouldn't feel slighted. What is there to feel slighted about? Did I previously ask her if she used to smoke and she said 'no' or some shit? If so, yeah I get it. If not, I don't get the shit.
 
If he didn't ask her up front, and expressed that he hated social media... Then yes it's goofy.

I can understand smoking a little more, cuz I know it's a deal breaker with a lot... But again if you didn't express it off the jump and didn't mention that you hate smokers... It's kinda foolish to think a person would tell you everything about them up front.

How they supposed to know what you don't like if you don't say it?
 
Duwop said:
If he didn't ask her up front, and expressed that he hated social media... Then yes it's goofy.

I can understand smoking a little more, cuz I know it's a deal breaker with a lot... But again if you didn't express it off the jump and didn't mention that you hate smokers... It's kinda foolish to think a person would tell you everything about them up front.

How they supposed to know what you don't like if you don't say it?
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That's fair.
 
Knock_Twice said:
Thread was inspired from a convo with a few old cats, one dude started dating (newly divorced) and he was saying how at first the girl he met didn't post on Social Media, even shunned it lol (his words, old nigga talk), he old school, he don't do social media and don't usually date anybody or want to date anybody whose always on it, but now he is finding out that the girl post something everyday on social media, says she always in her phone when they met up...she gotta check her phone...says he aint on that...said he fell back from her...

old nigga ways I guess, but that's where the idea of this thread came from....old ways/habits becoming new surprises to some.
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Oldhead did the right thing.


(And yeah, I know..........lol@ me calling dude an oldhead when he's probably close to my age or younger.)


Anyway, just getting divorced and having to deal with some bird posting on her phone all the time would annoy me too.
 
I'm not sure I understand this topic, but if I do, the question is how would you feel if a chick has an issue that could have a negative impact on the relationship, but she hides it until ya'll have gotten close.

If that's really the question, then I wouldn't feel slighted but I also wouldn't feel obligated to stick around after I find out. Using the initial example, I don't like cigarette smoke and cigarettes are killers. I wouldn't really have any desire to build something long term with someone that smokes them regularly. A chick might be able to hide that she smokes for a while, but I'd find eventually, and it would basically send the relationship into a death spiral.
 
Cigarette smoking is a deal breaker for me. I usually say that on our first conversation. If she decides to pick up the habit while we are dating, I would let her know how I feel about it. If she doesnt want to stop, I would most likely end our relationship
 
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