Unpopular Opinion: Bullies

Duwop said:
But again, my kid's are fighters. I try to get them to chill. But that's them.

My daughter grabbed this boy by his ears and screamed in his face for 10 seconds cuz he kept fucking with her. I was pissed, cuz how long was this kid fucking with her?

I kept her out of school the next day. Cuz she was shaken up over the whole ordeal. The kid left her alone afterwards. But shit.
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I found out my son don had like 8 fights this year.

But most of that shit is from being on the football team and fighting in the locker room after/before practice and shit.

And some of them is his friends lol.
 
The logical thing seems to have your child talk to someone about it (teachers, counselors and admins). Also continue to build up their confidence and assure them its not their fault. Also slightly give him hints on taking some sort of classes that could help him defend himself, like boxing or mma
 
Tessai said:
Oh the school definitely dropped the ball. He’s is in therapy and doing better now. I was definitely pissed the fuck off that the school let it go on as long as they did. When this other kid was teasing him before and I called up to the school about it, his counselor told me everything he thought I wanted to hear. That they would call the other kids parents and he would be admonished for his behavior but nothing really happened, until my kid just couldn’t take it anymore. And also now that he’s in football he has a channel to release some aggression, but doing it positively.
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That's what's up. I wish little bro the best. Hopefully them kids on notice and let him be him... Cuz that's best case scenario for everybody.
 
Dwayne said:
I found out my son don had like 8 fights this year.

But most of that shit is from being on the football team and fighting in the locker room after/before practice and shit.

And some of them is his friends lol.
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Yeah, them football kids be dumb as fuck.

My son is a freshman in one of the tougher schools in the city, but they offer a dual degree program where you can graduate with your HS diploma AND a AA in cyber security... You just gotta make it thru 4 years at a hood ass school. Considering my son been a smart knucklehead. I was like.. This perfect.

4.0 GPA, 3 sport athlete, principal honor roll... Dude on the fast track to win.

But..... some goofy ass kid tryna play to the crowd and while they all joking around he asks my son if he wanna square up....and my son having no good sense ..is like absolutely 🤦🏿‍♂️


As his mother is pulling up to pick him up from practice.... Bruh that day was so stressful. He didn't get suspended though
 
Duwop said:
That's what's up. I wish little bro the best. Hopefully them kids on notice and let him be him... Cuz that's best case scenario for everybody.
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What’s funny is after that the kid was trying to be his friend. That’s what happens with some of these bullies
 
Duwop said:
Yeah, them football kids be dumb as fuck.

My son is a freshman in one of the tougher schools in the city, but they offer a dual degree program where you can graduate with your HS diploma AND a AA in cyber security... You just gotta make it thru 4 years at a hood ass school. Considering my son been a smart knucklehead. I was like.. This perfect.

4.0 GPA, 3 sport athlete, principal honor roll... Dude on the fast track to win.

But..... some goofy ass kid tryna play to the crowd and while they all joking around he asks my son if he wanna square up....and my son having no good sense ..is like absolutely 🤦🏿‍♂️


As his mother is pulling up to pick him up from practice.... Bruh that day was so stressful. He didn't get suspended though
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I use to think my son was a bully

But it more he didn’t take no shit and refuse to let shit slide. I’m trying to teach him that just because you ignore shit don’t mean you’re a pussy.
 
Dwayne said:
I use to think my son was a bully

But it more he didn’t take no shit and refuse to let shit slide. I’m trying to teach him that just because you ignore shit don’t mean you’re a pussy.
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And that's the hard part. The flip side of the coin.
 
NotRol said:
The logical thing seems to have your child talk to someone about it (teachers, counselors and admins). Also continue to build up their confidence and assure them its not their fault. Also slightly give him hints on taking some sort of classes that could help him defend himself, like boxing or mma
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Most kids who know how to fight, legit don't want to fight.

Which is actually how I REALLY learned to fight..

This quiet kid at my middle school had all martial arts Uncles and his pop's... Like this nigga was a multiple black belt by 6th grade... But he was super quiet and chill....

I saw niggas fucking with him one day, and went into action... Made a life long friend who helped train me and introduced me to MMA and boxing gyms as an adult.

He was a bigger threat to those kids than I ever was... But I protected him from a emotional explosion of violence he wouldn't have been able to recover from at like 12-13
 
My kid can fight. He's been boxing for years and been on the wrestling team for years. He NEVER gets into no bullshit, but if he did, I'd advise him to tell his teacher. Then tell the administration. Then tell me. Then I'll talk to the teacher. Then I'll talk to the administration. Then I'll talk to the kid's parents. I ALWAYS wanna make sure I've gone above and beyond to resolve the issue peacefully.

Because after that...
 
I'm gonna put my oldest in martial arts this summer partially so he can learn how to defend himself because he's never had any real conflict he's bad to deal with yet. And I don't want him to find out the hard way about defending yourself. He's not a mean kid at all, actually too damn nice at times, but i do wanna make sure should he need to he can defend himself.
 
My lov is different cuz my daughter don’t let shit go. To the point she been in juvi. First time was accused of cyber bullying a kid and they were going back in forth in a group chat but he was white and mom pressed. Shit was dropped. But as soon as she got back to school she got into with some girl about her shoes and the girl wanted to fight her.

I lowkey think my daughter sneaky and does shit she think she can get away with but of course gets found out. I tell her you’re getting grace now but it’s less and less and less the older you get. People don’t care about your personal issues if you fucking with them.

Does not help me and her mom don’t talk at all anymore and I don’t really know how to talk to her mom without it going left.

My daughter thinks good grades and people liking her are enough and sometimes I think she needs to run into to somebody not playing with her. But sooner than later

I got faith in her or try to keep it
 
Duwop said:
If your kid can't fight. Telling them to hit a bully back is dumb as fuck.

You better teach that kid to tell, or go to the school and get that kid in trouble yourself. But instructing your kid to go get their ass whooped is crazy work. One, they not gonna trust you no more.. Two, they may take an ass whooping that they really ain't ready for.

But a lotta people too angry and not mature enough to accept that that's not the lane for their kids. Best case scenario is for responsible adults to intervene.

And niggas know when their kid can't fight or not built like that. They just ignore it cuz of their own insecurities.
And that's fucked up.
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Duwop said:
I never really had to deal with either of my kids being bullied. But they both stand up for themselves. And anytime they had an issue with a kid at school,I always reached out to the teacher myself vs telling my kids to handle it.

I feel like people just be way too angry and not teaching their kids good lessons.

My son is much more of a fighter than my daughter, and I was always up the school for some shit. And most of his alterations were resolved way better than if I told him some shit like

"If they get in your face, punch them" I would never tell my son some shit like that, cuz he's a child and is not thinking rational. He's operating off of emotions. And it's my job as a parent to teach him to navigate those emotions. He's going to be an adult one day, and just punching people cuz they press you will land you in prison. I'm not trying to be talking to my son from behind bars. So I teach him to handle conflicts without using your hands.

But every time I see this debate come up online, people are overwhelming trying to make their kids these tough ass fighters that they simply aren't by the examples and stories they tell. Like that shit is alarming to me. Figured I make a thread
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Dude sounds very mature and have solid emotional intelligence. It's crazy because I didn't come from that but knew right from wrong
 
BlackRain said:
I'm gonna put my oldest in martial arts this summer partially so he can learn how to defend himself because he's never had any real conflict he's bad to deal with yet. And I don't want him to find out the hard way about defending yourself. He's not a mean kid at all, actually too damn nice at times, but i do wanna make sure should he need to he can defend himself.
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Is he into anime?
 
RandomOne said:
What would you do if you found out your kid is the bully of their school? Deny it with "it can't be my kid"?
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I would be pissed. I detest bullies. I'd be upset with him but more mad at myself for not noticing and wondering what he's picked up either at home or away to even think that's a cool thing to do
 
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