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Fair or Foul?

Not every single thing needs to be even with kids and stepkids. As long as things are reasonably equitable, that’s what matters.

I would 100% do this and have no issues with it. And I would have no issues if my kid was the one excluded. And I’ve been in a blended family before.
 
he has the right to bond with his biological son

but he married a woman with a kid - so he'll have to also plan something for the step kid with the same intent
 
mryounggun said:
Not every single thing needs to be even with kids and stepkids. As long as things are reasonably equitable, that’s what matters.
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Mann that's what I thought but apparently not lol.

How dare a nigga try to do anything with his kid alone..
"riight"
Pass on all of this
 
loud-ninja said:
If I marry a woman with kids, they are now a part of my life and will be treated as my own.

If I want to bond with my biological child, I would do it on a day/s where a special moment is not shared with the other kids. Do it on a regular day.
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THANK YOU
 
GNS said:
So you can never have any type of alone time with your seed once you get with someone that got kids too?!?

Gat damn lol
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Are those words I typed??? This trip specifically is to celebrate a graduation, not a random bonding trip. Why would you want to leave out a child living in your home for the same accomplishment?
 
Tayboo said:
Are those words I typed??? This trip specifically is to celebrate a graduation, not a random bonding trip. Why would you want to leave out a child living in your home for the same accomplishment?
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Is the step incapable of understanding things? If you're so worried about hurting his feelings why not just explain things thoroughly?
 
Im confused. Are they all under the same roof or does the biological son live with his mom? That would change my answer.
 
You could also plan something with both, then on another day, plan something with just your child. Not that complicated. Everything needs balance. There would be an issue if I could never have alone time with my son in our marriage but that convo would happen before we got married.
 
Disanthrope said:
Is the step incapable of understanding things? If you're so worried about hurting his feelings why not just explain things thoroughly?
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How would you tell a child that their step father didn't feel that his/hers graduation wasn't a worthy enough accomplishment to take the trip?
 
GNS said:
Mann that's what I thought but apparently not lol.

How dare a nigga try to do anything with his kid alone..
"riight"
Pass on all of this
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Hot take: All parents should do shit with their kids individually sometimes. You don’t always have to do everything as a family. Each relationship is different. And each needs to be cultivated differently.
 
Tayboo said:
How would you tell a child that their step father didn't feel that his/hers graduation wasn't a worthy enough accomplishment to take the trip?
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Wasn't worthy? Dramatic lol

You explain life is not black and white, there is gray area. You explain that a man wants to bond with his OFFSPRING and it is not meant to offend you, you are still loved
 
Tayboo said:
How would you tell a child that their step father didn't feel that his/hers graduation wasn't a worthy enough accomplishment to take the trip?
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You totally just made that up. No one said that. That’s what you interpreted it as. In your mind, the only reason he’d take one and not the other is because he didn’t feel one was ‘worthy’ enough.
 
loud-ninja said:
You could also plan something with both, then on another day, plan something with just your child. Not that complicated. Everything needs balance. There would be an issue if I could never have alone time with my son in our marriage but that convo would happen before we got married.
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Lol one would hope that convo is before the marriage and kids
 
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