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ImaInfluenza

ImaInfluenza

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I was having a conversation with a female friend about another friend of ours. This mutual friend had taken issue to me not posting or speaking on an event we attended, and it upset them.

Me, I didn’t understand the big deal, I believe that moments together with others are intimate engagements and that you enjoy them in the present and if you take pics it’s so you can remember it.

The friend I was speaking to said that the reason it’s so important to her and people like her is that they had insecurities set in them from not being loved publicly when they were young so they seek to promote their good times with others to show people they are loved.

I said, so you post pictures so that other people can see that your loved and love others? They said yes, I said I don’t see the point in caring that others think you love and are loved. They said well why do you post pics of your kid’s achievements online?

I said, because I’m proud of them, and I’m sharing happiness. I’m sharing happiness, I’m not trying to prove to others I’m happy or are capable of being happy, I am happy and I’m sharing it.

At that point I realized l should stop posting pics of my kids and moments. Cause I thought, how many people think I’m sharing pics to prove that I love my children? To me that’s such a disgusting purpose, and I don’t want in any way be attached to such a sentiment.

Why do I need essentially strangers, to believe that I love my kids?

I never really put much thought as to why others share, I always assumed it was the same reason I share. Kinda made me sad for people to need others to believe that they are loved, in order to feel loved.

Why do you share pics online?
 
I share things i enjoy doing. Mainly travel and cooking. Things or moments im proud of. Also, maybe it will inspire others to do some of the things as well. But that is just a bonus.
 
I share quotes, travel destinations and the occasional repost of my culture 🇵🇪, on Fb.

Some people at times see my stories on the sneak, but that's cool.
 
I dont post on social media a) because I just dont like the trend and b) like @Eyerone says its giving away your data and info...

I'll post some pics on here like in the gardening or sneaker section or post some hip hop related pics, such as magazines and CDs etc but its just to interact with like minded people...
 
Eyerone said:
as the years go on and I realize how data scrappers are basically using all this good info that we share online for AI brain-building purposes and what not, the less I share.

It’s not worth it.
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This

If I have a group chat or Whatsapp group, I'll share shit in there
 
ImaInfluenza said:
I said, so you post pictures so that other people can see that your loved and love others? They said yes, I said I don’t see the point in caring that others think you love and are loved. They said well why do you post pics of your kid’s achievements online?

At that point I realized l should stop posting pics of my kids and moments. Cause I thought, how many people think I’m sharing pics to prove that I love my children? To me that’s such a disgusting purpose, and I don’t want in any way be attached to such a sentiment.
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The bold is why I don't share online. Too many are pretenders online. I have removed all of my personal images and connections to my personal life. The bold applies to the public in general, but especially online. People are more concerned with the perception than the reality to such an extent that reality is degrading right in front of them and they will either not care or notice if they believe it won't harm the perception they want to uphold.

People are sick. We are sick. The problem is "we" have become subjective. Some of us don't see anything wrong outside their circle; It's everyone else...
 
Imo, its not that deep. We all try too hard to figure out whats right or wrong.

No need to go as deep as trying to figure out why she wants the pics posted. Going into figuring out possible insecurities crazy and not yall jobs imo.

Humans are complicated creatures. You go to an event and get an endorphin rush enjoying it with people you there with. Another person gets that same endorphin rush when posting the pics online.

How you gonna tell a person to not do what gives them the endorphin rush when you did what you did to get yours?

Neither way of enjoying an event more right than the other. If the person gave you the endorphin rush of being there with you, unless you have a good reason not too, post that shit if you know itll make her happy.

Simple solution rather than playing online detective and arm chair psychologist imo
 
AZTG said:
Imo, its not that deep. We all try too hard to figure out whats right or wrong.

No need to go as deep as trying to figure out why she wants the pics posted. Going into figuring out possible insecurities crazy and not yall jobs imo.

Humans are complicated creatures. You go to an event and get an endorphin rush enjoying it with people you there with. Another person gets that same endorphin rush when posting the pics online.

How you gonna tell a person to not do what gives them the endorphin rush when you did what you did to get yours?

Neither way of enjoying an event more right than the other. If the person gave you the endorphin rush of being there with you, unless you have a good reason not too, post that shit if you know itll make her happy.

Simple solution rather than playing online detective and arm chair psychologist imo
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It’s not a matter of telling people what not to do, it’s a matter of, if that’s what you want to do, that’s fine, but don’t make it something I have to indulge in as well, and if I don’t, dont react as though I harmed you in some way.

Or neglected you in some way, I don’t have any problems with people having flaws and insecurities, I have them too. I have a problem with people weaponizing their flaws and insecurities.

I do something and it makes you jealous, that’s fine, I can’t fault you for being jealous, we all have levels of jealousy, but using that jealousy as the prime reason you do something to me, that’s my issue.

That’s when I rather not be around you, I rather not be around people who are motivated to put onto others, what they put onto themselves.
 
Water Ur Seeds said:
I dont post on social media a) because I just dont like the trend and b) like @Eyerone says its giving away your data and info...

I'll post some pics on here like in the gardening or sneaker section or post some hip hop related pics, such as magazines and CDs etc but its just to interact with like minded people...
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Oh yeah, I'll post pics of sneakers but that's about it
 
ImaInfluenza said:
It’s not a matter of telling people what not to do, it’s a matter of, if that’s what you want to do, that’s fine, but don’t make it something I have to indulge in as well, and if I don’t, dont react as though I harmed you in some way.

Or neglected you in some way, I don’t have any problems with people having flaws and insecurities, I have them too. I have a problem with people weaponizing their flaws and insecurities.

I do something and it makes you jealous, that’s fine, I can’t fault you for being jealous, we all have levels of jealousy, but using that jealousy as the prime reason you do something to me, that’s my issue.

That’s when I rather not be around you, I rather not be around people who are motivated to put onto others, what they put onto themselves.
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Was trying to get to know a chick a while back that thought it was weird I didn't have IG.

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AP2.5 said:
Was trying to get to know a chick a while back that thought it was weird I didn't have IG.

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I love the show Rick and Morty and would love to watch it with someone that gets the humor. I unfortunately don’t know anyone personally that likes it or think it’s funny, and so the fuck what…they don’t have to indulge in all the shit I do
 
lol..imagine me watching a episode and my girl coming in like, you watching without me….bitch,…sit the fuck down or leave. I enjoy the shit wit you, but I don’t need you to enjoy it, but I do appreciate it when we do it together..feel me?
 
Honestly I don't share much on my social media, mostly memes and a pic of myself and my sons here and there. At this point I mainly use my SM to follow content creators that I like.
 
Don't really share on the internet except on here with yall.

I don't have an ig or snapchat, I used to keep fb for contacts but couldn't tell you the last time I logged in for one, and I use twitter to upload ps5 screenshots/vids lol. 🤷🏿‍♂️

I've never been one to just take pictures of where I'm at or what I'm doing and upload it either. Maybe the occasional pic of something I'm eating or smoking on but that's it and it's rare for me.
 
It took forever for me to get on FB, and that was because I lost an old friend to covid and almost lost a lifelong friend to it. Then my wife passed, so I made an account specific to family and select friends that are like family or that my wife and I knew together (i.e. a handful of people from the dorms in college where we met). My family account is where you'll see pics of my kids, but usually only on their birthdays and a handful of outings. My account with old classmates don't get pics of my kids. I'm comfortable sharing pics of my kids with family and really that's it. I don't share anything deeply personal on either account. Having said that, I did share when my wife passed as well as my grandmother's passing in 2020 and when I finally visited my father's grave last year.

My normal posts on FB are funny memes and videos, shit talking, and my lil photography shits. That's about it. When I finally get around to making music, I'l be posting that up as well.
 
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