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Women Who Refuse To Take The Man's Last Name After Marriage

@BNE , I was once 1000% against the likelihood of being submissive to any man. It was because of my one-sided definition of the term. Submissive in my description of submissive behavior was losing my identity, having no opinion, unworthy, incapable, and restricted of doing anything outside of pleasing your man, house duties, and bearing children. I pretty much related the characteristics to slavery. So I'm thinking, "Never...ever...ever...EVER will I be anybody's slave. DF?"

My stance has changed only because I decided to become a little bit more open-minded and educated about the idea. I've learned that submitting to your man isn't a sign of weakness or discontinuing who you are as a person. It only means that you let the man lead, you allow him to make decisions, and just stand behind those decisions. Pretty much let him be King, but remember you are also the Queen. If you trust his movement, he treats you like the Queen you are, and respects you as a woman, what would be the reason for rejecting that role? I believe it's all about your views and what you're willing to accept and not accept, honestly. Everybody's relationship is different.

So I guess becoming more conscious of where I want to be and why has significantly changed my approach on the subject. Also toning down my stubbornness has permitted me to becoming vulnerable to the idea. I have no issue real issue to why I would decline not taking my husband's last name. We become one and we're building our own family. That's dope to me.
Since posting this, I have became a little less stubborn and more vulnerable.
 
If that's how she feels...guess we ain't gettin married.

Sorry, I'm old skool. I could care less how established you get. Hyphenate it if you want. But if I'm askin you to be my wife, the mother of my kids, my eternal soulmate, then best believe you carrying my last name.

You marrying me, then you gotta be all in. That "I'm independent" thinking goes out the window, b/c we become ONE.



I still stand by this.
 
I be seeing this kids coming up through sports and college looking at them and I see they be both parents last name.

All I be thinking is their dad is a bitch nigga
 
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I be seeing this kids coming up through sports and college looking at them and I see they be both parents last name.

All I be thinking is their dad is a bitch nigga
This is an extremely rigid perspective

It ain't your last name anyway
 
Hyphens lol

Carrying they maiden last name lol

Glad I caught this thread late
 
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Jumped to page 14 and I see the Goldie I used to know going full savage

Yeah, I'm glad I missed this
 
I'm proud of my last name.

My family aint prestigious or anything but I'm the man and want MY SONS and MY WIFE with MY LAST NAME.

I'm not old school when it comes to men and women are roles all the time but this one I am
 
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I’m not changing my name because I am not defined by a man. I also don’t see why I have to go through all the hassle of changing all my legal documents just cos I got married. It’s pretty stupid
 
Ima do a dash between my name and his. So my students can keep calling me the same name. Everybody else refer to me as the Mrs. New name.
 
I’m not changing my name because I am not defined by a man. I also don’t see why I have to go through all the hassle of changing all my legal documents just cos I got married. It’s pretty stupid
How about any children you bear
 
AP want folks walking around with 14 last names lololololol
Nah

She said she wouldn't change her name but I know some women that feel that way but the children will either have hyphen names or they take the mother's last name

Couldn't be me but just trying to cover all bases
 
If that's how she feels...guess we ain't gettin married
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That hyphenated bullshit sounds like they trying niggaz too
 
Let me see something...what are the origins of everyone's last name?

My last name is of Gaelic origin, so maybe that's why I don't feel that strongly attached to it. It's just as foreign to me as my last name would be to my wife. Idk, maybe y'all pedigrees are stronger, lol.
 
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