I know at some point, the "casual encounter" became synonymous with just fucking.
But can two thing be true at the same time? i.e. Is it possible that in one instance, casually seeing someone can be just that and not involve sex or rather being restrictive to just sex, while in the other, you can just be fwb?
I be thinking that people tend to go to either extreme and never stop to think there can be balance.
Like, why can't a person entertain multiple people at once? Spread the eggs around...in this instance, the eggs are representative of a person's time. I think when you are dating, it's important to see what other options look like instead of putting all the energy into one person and only getting one perspective thus skewing your perspective on other people.
Idk wanna get too deep just yet, but yes, this thread was influenced by me being under the influence.
Take from that what you will.
All that "explore" options stuff already implies it's more than casual because what are you exploring for? Exploring implies there's a destination to find and that's where everybody gets fucked up: I'm exploring my options. If it's fucking around, who cares if you're fucking one person only or holding "all your eggs in one basket?" We not trying to build allegedly, so why the fear of one basket? If everything can just be casual then why we wasting TIME exploring?
You really enjoy talking to 14 people, listening to 14 different days, memorizing 14 different strokes?
It's an ego boost for a while but then it's just work. Exhausting ass work. Not to mention that shit keeps you in a box where you keep adding new people because you're in an imaginary competition with the other person or persons to see who can't feel the most, so inevitably you "explore" more and more to keep the imaginary "I ain't getting played" upper hand. Then, at the end of all of it, you're just tired as shit and can't trust anybody or won't be able to for a long time if you keep it a buck with yourself because that mentality of "they're just as unserious as me" has been programmed in for
years and you won't recognize when someone is serious. I won't even get into people who think they can turn giving a fuck on and off like a switch. Surprisingly, it's easy to program sociopathic behavior. Unsurprisingly, very hard to deprogram it.
That's why casual gets a bad rap because casual is a synonym for "playing with my life" because everybody in the casual lane is casual as long as they have the upper hand. The minute a dude finds a chick with all the shit he wants and gets tired of the rotation, it's a problem if he ain't that for her. Then for the female players, it's the same shit: it's all casual until you find the dude casually feeding all the shit you needed only for him to look at you as an unsaved number in his phone or at best a contact with a drooling emoji, peach, and rain drop.
Only casuals in the world are escorts and porn folks. The rest of us with few exceptions are out here capping until the game is done with us or vice versa.
