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COMMUNITY Where does Porn fall into your relationship(s)?

I only had one bf that was into porn and making home videos.(that I'm aware of, not to much gets past me tho so I'm fairly confident). I think we made one video but I trashed that shit when we broke up. Idk I'm extremely passionate and prefer fucking like a pornstar than watching one, famous or otherwise. If I had a bf now, and he liked porn, idk, watch that shit without me then come at me all horny and raw and we'lI be straight. And I don't knock anyone who does watch porn, get your jollies where you wish(as long as it doesn't hurt others/animals).

so you'd be cool with idea that he used it to get turned on for you??

how about when its not about you?
 
If he ain't horny for me, specifically, trust I've long since picked up on that and most likely the relationship is already over.

well what tha fawk BEE AYE lol

that shit dont last forever....but women (in my sole opinion) really really do not like the thought of accepting that

I KNOW im not super sexy and i cant be king dingaling all the damn time.....she's gone need some other motivations one day
 
well what tha fawk BEE AYE lol

that shit dont last forever....but women (in my sole opinion) really really do not like the thought of accepting that

I KNOW im not super sexy and i cant be king dingaling all the damn time.....she's gone need some other motivations one day
If he gotta watch a porn to get in the mood to fuck me, yeah man, we're done. If you like a little porn cuz it gives you that extra pump in ya hump, I don't see a problem. Having basic sex just to get off, yeah gets boring af real fast.
 
i dont get it. men are visual. down the road in relationships its like we're supposed to get horny out of nowhere with zero incentive lol

and now we bout to go into those other reasons to have sex i suppose? cuz outside of kids and getting off, yeah you got me
 
i dont get it. men are visual. down the road in relationships its like we're supposed to get horny out of nowhere with zero incentive lol

and now we bout to go into those other reasons to have sex i suppose? cuz outside of kids and getting off, yeah you got me
That's why I said if ya need a little porn for that oomff, do it. If it's cuz ya can't get a hard on without it, there is a bigger issue at hand. Regular sex when you got job, careers, kids, family etc is hard and tiring. Sex is about putting energy into your partner, not getting one off. Only one day or month to get laid? Make it awesome.
 
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I think porn and relationships will always be problematic.

It's like a side chick at times
 
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See like, I see things differently I guess. If your sex consists of the same positions, the same sex talk, the same 4 play, the same, like on Wednesday this week is same how we fucked 2 mths ago etc. Yeah gonna take a lot of for people, especially women to get all excited about. If you have sex based on current needs/moods things work out better. Communication is imperative cuz maybe I don't wanna be slow fucked right now, I need to fucked like a maniac cuz I got frustrations built up. Idk it's different kinda of sex for different purposes. Lack of focus and putting energy into your partner is a sex killer cuz it makes the other person they're just there as a body.

I highly recommend people visit ssx therapy. Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, it however is the most intricate.
 
B.A. I get everything you're saying you're just not realizing that everything you point out is geared toward the woman being in the mood, and having the right energy, and focusing on particular needs.

This is a two way street. You remember those current needs/moods? We dont always want sweet rolling around under the covers. We're not always turned on by subtle foreplay....which we gotta be into it some kinda way to be thinking about your needs and wants lol. We can very much feel like we're just there as an affection machine or "body" when our side of things is disregarded and looked down on.

i agree w/ the therapy thing actually...never been but its gotta be helpful to get an outer view that doesnt lean either direction
 
B.A. I get everything you're saying you're just not realizing that everything you point out is geared toward the woman being in the mood, and having the right energy, and focusing on particular needs.

This is a two way street. You remember those current needs/moods? We dont always want sweet rolling around under the covers. We're not always turned on by subtle foreplay....which we gotta be into it some kinda way to be thinking about your needs and wants lol. We can very much feel like we're just there as an affection machine or "body" when our side of things is disregarded and looked down on.

i agree w/ the therapy thing actually...never been but its gotta be helpful to get an outer view that doesnt lean either direction
Okay then, help me to understand. I'm super high right now, and a lil lot slow. For me it's different cuz as long as you come at me with that hunger, is triggers something in me and I'm ready to fuck cuz its raw and animalistic and I can't resist its smell. But for real, I still don't know what your exact plight is?
 
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My bad that shit got way off track lol...brought some different energy into it

People in general just gotta be more open and honest about how arousal works for them and their partner long term..thats all
 
People shouldn't use porn as foreplay. Cause at the end of the day it's just tv. Shit is scripted and fake. If you by yourself it does the job. But in a relationship or someone you fucking for the most part you know what to do. So I'm porn ain't really needed. And when you try to incorporate porn it's weird cause y'all gonna cherry picking like y'all at whole foods or some shit 😂
 
I might have worded the o/p wrong

It wad never strictly about watching together or using for foreplay

Just asking where it fell period in the mix of your union
 
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