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COMMUNITY The Rise of Lonely Single Men

Folks need to stop suppressing their feelings and go talk to some woman or a therapist... go outside, mingle.
What's worse than a nigga crying??
Running out of nachos at the movie before the movie starts...
Kleenex ass niggas need to chin up
That's the point. A lot young males don't have the same social skills with everything being digital now. And it's gon get worse with time. Like shenco posted, a lot of these niggas are weird, socially awkward and dont know how to talk to ppl...add in the exposure to porn and how that damages your ability to enjoy female company at a young age (and vice versa). On top of the rise of anxiety and depression diagnoses....deadeye and his red pill shit wana make this like young boys/men are consciously making these decisions, but I doubt most of them are. You take a teenager phone or video games away and they act like it's gon literally kill them to have to be present and talk to somebody face to face.

We got more virgins and numbers of low partners in 18-25 yos than previous generations across the board for males and females.
 
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OINTS
  • Dating opportunities for heterosexual men are diminishing as healthy relationship standards change.
  • Men represent approximately 62% of dating app users, lowering their chances for matches.
  • Men need to address skills deficits to meet healthier relationship expectations.


  • Younger and middle-aged men are the loneliestthey’ve ever been in generations, and it’s probably going to get worst.

    This is not my typical rosy view of relationships but a reality nonetheless. Over the last 30 years, men have become a larger portion of that growing group of long-term single people. And while you don’t actually need to be in a relationship to be happy, men typically are happier and healthier when partnered.

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    Here are three broad trends in the relationship landscape that suggest heterosexual men are in for a rough road ahead:

    Dating Apps. Whether you’re just starting to date or you’re recently divorced and dating again, dating apps are a huge driver of new romantic connections in the United States. The only problem is that upwards of 62% of users are men and many women are overwhelmed with how many options they have. Competition in online dating is fierce, and lucky in-person chance encounters with dreamy partners are rarer than ever.


    Relationship Standards. With so many options, it’s not surprising that women are increasingly selective. I do a live TikTok show (@abetterloveproject) and speak with hundreds of audience members every week; I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values.


    Skills Deficits. For men, this means a relationship skills gap that, if not addressed, will likely lead to fewer dating opportunities, less patience for poor communication skills, and longer periods of being single. The problem for men is that emotional connection is the lifeblood of healthy, long-term love. Emotional connection requires all the skills that families are still not consistently teaching their young boys.
  • While there’s probably no chance of stemming the rising tide of unintentional single men, there is still good news.

    The algorithms are becoming increasingly more complex on dating apps and other online platforms. One benefit is that great matches are on the rise. Hinge, one dating app, found through beta trials that 90% of users rated their first date positively, with 72% indicating wanting a second date.

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    How can men reap the benefit of the algorithms? Level up your mental health game. That means getting into some individual therapy to address your skills gap. It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively. It means seeing intimacy, romance, and emotional connection as worthy of your time and effort.


    Ultimately, we have an opportunity to revolutionize romantic relationships and establish new healthy norms starting with a first date. It’s likely that some of these romances will be transformative and healing, disrupting generational trauma, and establishing a fresh culture of admiration and validation.


    Men have a key role in this transformation but only if they go all-in. It’s going to take that kind of commitment to themselves, to their own mental health, to the kind of love they want to generate in this world. Will we step up?

  • I copied and pasted so this might look crazy but what does ABW think this means for black couples? And what’s the cause? Is it our music? Does social media play a part in this that we don’t know? I personally think finances plays a part a lot of men won’t date until the money is in order. Are women accepting less nonsense in order to keep a dude? What y’all think?

Status, Finances, and Image.

It’s also that women aren’t dating anymore as they used to before social media blowed up. I won’t put the onus solely on social media but there’s direct correlation between basically being connected with the entire world and a certain rise of lonely, single men.

For a while, women were inclined to date men for substance, they weren’t as concerned with image as they are now. Whether that’s a good or bad thing, well… They’re accepting and declining dating proposals as men would if we were the selectors and basing it on basically the same thing that men would base it on but the inverse: “Does talking to you get my pussy wet?” “Can I imagine myself with my ankles up to my ears while you fucking me?” And, as a man if you don’t pass that threshold for her off rip, there’s no chance of getting in with her on any level.

Women are dating their friends (Sunday Brunch, anyone?) , fucking the men they want, and otherwise leaving no room for others to actually ‘apply pressure’, which overall makes that more or less a dumb thing to say. It’s like Trill (from Krew Season) says, women need to stick to a set of nonnegotiable standards for the men they like just as well as when it comes to the men they’re unsure about.
 
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