All the shit that's talked about......and only a few people in here?
The loni love thread blew up but nothing here?
Y'all have no problems or solutions to problems?
This is kinda reflective to what our hoods are. A few say something...a few care, a few try to fix it and the rest chase bitches, women and drama.
MFS
That's because it's way easier to grip about a problem than to work on fixing it.
Because in order to fix it, you have to look at all sides of it. Too many of us ain't willing to do that because those sides consist of us, our friends, our parents, relatives etc. When you examine those elements, there's usually a lot of pain there.
We are a traumatized people. I bet damn near everyone of us on this board has to a story that would make the average person have nightmares. That's why we don't put as much energy in the solutions.
Too much pain
We'd have to focus on where WE made bad decisions. I mean come on who the hell does that? Shit we ain't ever wrong. It's dem niggas that's the problem
We'd have to deal with the harsh reality that although we had a plethora of deadbeat suckas who ran off on us, we'd also have to examine the role our mothers played in that. Whether passive, by simply choosing the wrong man and tolerating him just to say she had one. Or actively pushing him out of the house and sabotaging the father child relationship.
We'd have to deal with the hurt feeling over our fathers not wanting us, our uncles abusing us. Grandmomma and Grandaddy mentally and physically abusing us. Them oldheads was harsh at times.
It's so much shit that's been piled and piled and piled.
And now it's a huge pile of shit, that stank to high hell. But it's so much of it, nobody wants to grab a shovel and some trash bags. That's too much work and we don't the shit to get on us.