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What year was the hardest for your marriage? Will you or have you seeked counseling before? Are you open to renewing your vows at any point?
 
11yrs

had a few hick ups
Can’t really narrow down to a year but times where hard because of immaturity.

counseling didn’t work because the perspective can always be flipped to escape accountability.

we thought about renewing at our tenth .....woke up that morning. Told each other “you better not go no mf where” “ and “ I’m not getting married again” laughed and decided against it.
 
11yrs

had a few hick ups
Can’t really narrow down to a year but times where hard because of immaturity.

counseling didn’t work because the perspective can always be flipped to escape accountability.

we thought about renewing at our tenth .....woke up that morning. Told each other “you better not go no mf where” “ and “ I’m not getting married again” laughed and decided against it.
I heard the first year or so is the toughest.
 
7 yrs, 1st year was wild but it was our individual lives and not the relationship

I've initiated talking to counselors a few times for different reasons (sometimes for us, sometimes just for me)...never went thru with it

We've always had plans for a big thing out of the country for our tenth
 
It'll be 10 years June 25th

I think the hardest time was her mother passing... Not for us as a couple.... Just in general. I still think she needs counseling for that. Dealing with her family can be taxing in general... But I have a lot of boundaries set when it comes to outside shit interfering with our at home peace.

Pre pandemic we were thinking about vow renewals for the 10th anniversary. Do a small get away with some close family. But the more we thought about it, the less we wanted to do a destination thing with other people... Even if it is family.... So we just ended up doing us and checking a city off of our bucket list.

Being a fan of Anne Rice, and always hearing how good the food and scene in New Orleans always had the city high on our places to go. And we found a really good deal on an air bnb for 10 days.... So that's where we're going for the year 10 anniversary.

I'm looking forward to it, cuz we always have a great time whenever we go somewhere without the kids. Just less responsibilities.. More sleeping in. Having kids early in the marriage..I feel like we didn't have enough just us time in the beginning. So these kinda get aways are the shit.

We went to a casino in the mountains for valentine's day.... That shit was fun as fuck too. I think then we decided to make anniversary as long as it could be. 10 days for 10 years should be good.
 
Married 15 years. We met in middle school, fucked around in high school, fucked around again in college, then got together for good right at the end of college.

We actually in counseling now. Not for anything major, just because when we get upset with each other we hold grudges. Our communication and understanding of one another was lacking. A lot of that has to do with some hard times in our past we never really dealt with or got over.

I'd highly recommend counseling if you're married, even if you don't have major hang ups. It's liberating to get an objective third party to weigh in on shit and break down some of those walls we put up. Ours is a black woman and I'd recommend a black woman. She can relate to things in the black experience and her being a woman makes it that much more comfortable for my wife.
 
Married 15 years. We met in middle school, fucked around in high school, fucked around again in college, then got together for good right at the end of college.

We actually in counseling now. Not for anything major, just because when we get upset with each other we hold grudges. Our communication and understanding of one another was lacking. A lot of that has to do with some hard times in our past we never really dealt with or got over.

I'd highly recommend counseling if you're married, even if you don't have major hang ups. It's liberating to get an objective third party to weigh in on shit and break down some of those walls we put up. Ours is a black woman and I'd recommend a black woman. She can relate to things in the black experience and her being a woman makes it that much more comfortable for my wife.
Shit 50% of our issues came from communication.
 
10 years on October 1st.

The roughest years were 2016-2018.

2013 was when we got into some shit with my parents and oldest brother that resulted in us being estranged for 4 years. We're more than good now and I can tell that a lot respect has been earned.

My brother and I are still repairing our relationship (we reconciled on our mother's birthday iirc) but honestly, it won't be the same.

We've done counseling before but that was early into our marriage and the counseling helped us realize that we were still learning how to communicate with one another. I myself had to learn how to fight fair.
 
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10 years on October 1st.

The roughest years were 2016-2018.

2013 was when we got into some shit with parents and oldest brother that resulted in us being estranged for 4 years. We're more than good now and I can tell that a lot respect has been earned.

My brother and I are still repairing our relationship (we reconciled on our mother's birthday iirc) but honestly, it won't be the same.

We've done counseling before but that was early into our marriage and the counseling helped us realize that we were still learning how to communicate with one another. I myself had to learn how to fight fair.
Fighting fair is a motherf’er
 
It'll be 10 years this August... Toughest years were probably 2015-2017... In that timeframe, I lost my grandmother, 2 uncles, 4 cousins. I was mourning for a while by blocking out emotions and didn't really put much thought into it. We've since talked about a lot of that and are in a pretty good space...But We've been talking about going to therapy because we both have issues from the past that haven't truly healed from and maturity and faith and has allowed us to recognize that.. Walls get put up and you don't realize it because it gets drown out by responsibilities.

We're planning where we wanna go for our tenth. We haven't been on a major trip since the kids came
 
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