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Fair or Foul? Woman spews hate towards father

Fair or foul

  • Foul AF spend time with him in old age

    Votes: 17 89.5%
  • Fair he should have been there earlier in life

    Votes: 2 10.5%

  • Total voters
    19
she could just be a spoiled brat too......who to say shes not. why is her word gospel without hearing the other side.
plus, one child can influence the rest to think just as dumb as she thinking.
i seen shit like this ...
its so many way this could be, without just shitting on dude.

why is it so easy
Didnt say any of that. The moment people start including imaginary scenarios that go outside of the original post, you get what is happening now.

She is shitting on the father because his absence was hurtful to her. That is all we know. All we can go on. It is really not about believing her but it brings up a good convo. This is something that happens often. Some Mothers do the same thing.
 
but didnt people just say that aint the way to raise kids? i think it was mentioned in here..
Im confused at your rebuttal. Im saying we were all kids. Most people are not gonna repeat the errors of their parents. His kid doesnt need to be grown to know that.
 
Didnt say any of that. The moment people start including imaginary scenarios that go outside of the original post, you get what is happening now.

She is shitting on the father because his absence was hurtful to her. That is all we know. All we can go on. It is really not about believing her but it brings up a good convo. This is something that happens often. Some Mothers do the same thing.
and sometimes that shit needs to be called out. she shitting on a whole parent like its cool over something she might not have understood. and thats where the what ifs come in along with the perfect parenting statements others made.
 
Im confused at your rebuttal. Im saying we were all kids. Most people are not gonna repeat the errors of their parents. His kid doesnt need to be grown to know that.
the point of the grown kids is ..you dont know you did a good job as a parent until your kids are older. even then.....you can go to every concert or band recital and football game, but miss the right one......and its like you never did anything.
 
the point of the grown kids is ..you dont know you did a good job as a parent until your kids are older. even then.....you can go to every concert or band recital and football game, but miss the right one......and its like you never did anything.
Life is a gamble. But there are certain things people can do to up their chances of success.

If a parent was in their child life, provided for them financially and emotionally, no signs of abuse and the kid becomes a menace to society at the age of lets say 21. I wont place blame on the parents. The child now adult decided to get in with the wrong crowd.

Now in that same scenario, if the parent/s were absent in the child's development, half the blame will go on the parent.

I feel like you are down playing the part attention and emotional support plays on a kid.
Working nonstop is not the biggest offense a parent can do but there can be consequences.
Be in a childs life and not just around.


One if the main reasons kids join gangs or a bad group is because they feel like an actual family that cares.
 
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and if you dont understand everything that was going on in his life that he may have willingly kept from you, you might just be mad for nothing.

like i said earlier...what if he was caring for and paying the bills for a sick relative? and got home and was emotionally drained? person died and now he wants to spend time with the family......would that warrant some understanding? some grace? we dont know....bu we cool with not expanding the what ifs or possibilities of this not being what it looks like.

I hear you it’s a whole lot of shit he could’ve had going on he could’ve been dealing with traumatic experiences causing him to be distant.
 
nobody even said any of that ahit in your first sentence man not at all. But y’all miggas act like being emotionally available is the hardest part of parenting and then wonder why the kids is this scenario have no emotions his actions lead to that. Like when did accountability not be a thing

Bruh, judging from y'alls responses, y'all acting like you already know how to parent, something no other generation of parents would dare say.

And, just as you said "nobody even said any of that", not one person said or even alluded to "being emotionally available is hard". Shit never came up at all in any one of these responses; you made that shit up in your head.
 
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lol bruh you can work and be there for your kids without abusing them or treating them like trash. He literally skipped one of the most important aspects of being a parent but y’all letting it slide cause if what? If you ain’t there to see milestones and shit or teach anything what can a parent expect. Niggas work everyday all my homies who got kids raise them. I don’t understand why he can’t?

He abused them and treated them like trash? Where'd she say that at cuz I missed it.
 
Life is a gamble. But there are certain things people can do to up their chances of success.

If a parent was in their child life, provided for them financially and emotionally, no signs of abuse and the kid becomes a menace to society at the age of lets say 21. I wont place blame on the parents. The child now adult decided to get in with the wrong crowd.

Now in that same scenario, if the parent/s were absent in the child's development, half the blame will go on the parent.

I feel like you are down playing the part attention and emotional support plays on a kid.
Working nonstop is not the biggest offense a parent can do but there can be consequences.
Be in a childs life and not just around.


One if the main reasons kids join gangs is because they feel like an actual family that cares.

Bruh, I've seen that shit at 14. Lil nigga absolutely wildin'. The family had two other kids, both older and both in college. But the young nigga... I don't even know what happened to his ass. When I met them he was 7-8 years old. Nice kid, respectful, called me "Mr" and alladat, good in school and everything just like the older kids. Fast forward 6 years, his ass done been to juvie, his aunt (who I was dating when I met them) told me his momma found a gun and weed in his school bag, nigga got into a fight with a teacher, word on the street was that he shot somebody but they lived and was lookin' for his ass. They ended up sending his ass down to their family in Mississippi to get him straight. No idea what happened to dude 'cause I ain't seen ole girl since 99, but the future for his ass was grim as shit.
 
I hear you it’s a whole lot of shit he could’ve had going on he could’ve been dealing with traumatic experiences causing him to be distant.
And that’s all I’m saying. We dont know.
so how can we dog him?
I can be on the other side if she said anything else. But not home because he was working is not one of them.
like who want to go to work really?
 
so the mom gotta teach her kids that dad is good just that he shown no emotion whatsoever? How that gonna work with all the examples of working dads who can balance.
I think I’m confused because being emotionally unavailable is not common to me at all. Excuses

No, mom teaches the kids to respect their father who is out providing for them. That's every parents job, to instill a base level of respect for the other parent rather than allowing children to let their ever changing emotions dictate how much respect they show for the person who gave them life.

For them to all leave the room when he's trying to spend time with them is hella disrespectful and sounds more like the kids took on their moms emotions about their father. It happens often.
 
Didn’t dr dre daughter say he did nothing for her once he hit a billy?
Didn’t Lawrence fishburne daughter do porn just to spite her pop?
You can do all you can but shit can go left from just saying no once
 
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