Am I the a$$hole: Refusing to buy my finance an engagement ring

[AP2.5]

 

[AP2.5]

I think it's funny lol

But does he have a valid point? She considers taking the last name of the husband is sexist, he was like cool, engagement rings are sexist lol

 

[BountyHunterRo]

I still don’t understand why women want both rings, especially when they are gonna only really wear one for the rest of the marriage

 

[AP2.5]

I still don’t understand why women want both rings, especially when they are gonna only really wear one for the rest of the marriage

Uhh, maybe I've never paid attention but every female I know wears both

 

[Eartha Clit]

I still don’t understand why women want both rings, especially when they are gonna only really wear one for the rest of the marriage

You wear both.

 

[Eartha Clit]

Yes, he’s being petty. His intentions were to buy a ring with her from the jump. Now he’s feeling some kind of way about her not taking his last name.

 

[BountyHunterRo]

You wear both.

Even after the marriage?

 

[Rubato]

Even after the marriage?

Yea I think most do

 

[Rubato]

I’m not the one to ask about this cause I don’t really understand engagement or marriage

 

[DOS_patos]

My wife doesn't wear her engagement ring anymore. Just sits in the safe collecting dust.

 

[DOS_patos]

But dude has a point.

She just wants everything in her favor.

 

[Rubato]

The taking last names convo seems like one you’d have prior to proposing

 

[Playmaker88]

All some people care about is the party and the ring... they need to work on their relationship.. as do most

 

[DirtyDusko]

Seems like the status symbols are more important than the status. Crash & burn up ahead ?

 

[Chicity]

Fair imo

Marriage is a contract and they setting the terms of such said contract.

Petty or not, he has a very valid point

 

[Chicity]

Also, you can buy an engagement and wedding band set or you can buy two pcs separately that compliment each other

There's no right answer in what she chooses to wear after the ceremony

 

[Rubato]

Fair imo

Marriage is a contract and they setting the terms of such said contract.

Petty or not, he has a very point

I just think in general, business or romantically...

A proposal can’t legitimately be given or accepted without the terms being laid out. They should have at the very least tossed around the hypothetical details before all this.

 

[HollidaySeason]

Of course he was being petty but men take pride in their last name. Its considered honorable for her to carry the name within the family structure. I'd felt some type of way too

 

[Chicity]

I just think in general, business or romantically...

A proposal can’t legitimately be given or accepted without the terms being laid out. They should have at the very least tossed around the hypothetical details before all this.

Probably soft balled they wants and desires without conviction and the other person wasn't really paying attention.

We know all the signs were there but were getting overlooked. He'd know damn well she was keeping her last name if they ever discussed her job in any real capacity

 

[Eartha Clit]

I’m shocked they didn’t have this last name conversation before the proposal.