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That kinda sounds dope and dangerous now that you brought this scenario.:hehe:
How Much Power Do Your Friends Have On Ur Relationships?
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👑The Fall Off👑
Black 🖤
👑The Fall Off👑
I pretty much keep a lotta things to myself bc Im just a private person. Also speaking negatively about your s/o to your friends may create some ill feelings towards them. I mean all couples go through things, but once you're back on good terms, it's sometimes hard for your friends to like or go back to liking your man/girl. That can be awk af, but shit happens, ppl (can) change.
Another thing is I do ask for advice and still do what I feel is best for me.
Another thing is I do ask for advice and still do what I feel is best for me.
None.
My friends make bad decisions. I can make bad decisions on my own.
Old Man Cain
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None..... Nigga I'm grown
I always ask my mama. She always been right. If my mama likes you from the stuff I tell her, you might just be a good pick. I tell her good and bad.
the way i interpret the question is do i seek out perspective from friends to the point where i make a move based on that perspective?
hmmm...i can say that I have. Like if you are married, you have your married friend or a friend that was previously married, and you have your single friend. While the single friend can offer a nice perspective, i wouldnt necessarily share anything with them b/c they cant speak on something they know nothing about. Thats not a slight at them, but there is really no perspective they can offer me when it comes to marital issues.
My married friend however, i feel like he will give me the raw and uncut perspective. Tell me where i was wrong, offer me a suggestion in how to move forward, especially if he has been married a lot longer than I have. Now, this is where it gets tricky, which is kinda the point i made in the Insecure thread about the value of real friends. If he really my friend, meaning he is going to hold me accountable, tell me where i went wrong, and offer me some perspective, he is going to view anything i may share about my s/o from a 3rd party, non biased pov. So if he sees my s/o if things are back to normal, he isn't going to treat her any different than he has previously, which is the mark of a true friend. I dont need a yes man to just tell me fdb and keep it moving.
I think everyone should have at least one person that holds them accountable. I have that friend. If he tells me, AP, I think you could've handled that better, i listen and dont catch feelings b/c im not looking for a pat on the back or some sort of validation.
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hmmm...i can say that I have. Like if you are married, you have your married friend or a friend that was previously married, and you have your single friend. While the single friend can offer a nice perspective, i wouldnt necessarily share anything with them b/c they cant speak on something they know nothing about. Thats not a slight at them, but there is really no perspective they can offer me when it comes to marital issues.
My married friend however, i feel like he will give me the raw and uncut perspective. Tell me where i was wrong, offer me a suggestion in how to move forward, especially if he has been married a lot longer than I have. Now, this is where it gets tricky, which is kinda the point i made in the Insecure thread about the value of real friends. If he really my friend, meaning he is going to hold me accountable, tell me where i went wrong, and offer me some perspective, he is going to view anything i may share about my s/o from a 3rd party, non biased pov. So if he sees my s/o if things are back to normal, he isn't going to treat her any different than he has previously, which is the mark of a true friend. I dont need a yes man to just tell me fdb and keep it moving.
I think everyone should have at least one person that holds them accountable. I have that friend. If he tells me, AP, I think you could've handled that better, i listen and dont catch feelings b/c im not looking for a pat on the back or some sort of validation.
my .02
what does them having the same taste as you have to do with anything? or maybe im not understanding your position.
Golden
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my position was operating under the assumption that we're talking about the early stages of a relationship, where you're still identifying if they're right for you.
them having wildly different tastes, desires, relationship aspirations etc definitely factors in. peoples wants and vantage point have a role in their assessment of a person.
Couldn't have said it better myself.